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Thanks to Heidi a mom from the Hypnobabies Yahoo Group for sharing her experience with us.
I’m Heidi from Idaho. Clint and I have been married for a dozen years and have two (plus another on the way) kids to show for it. Stinker is 4 and Goose is 10. I’m lucky to be able to stay home with the kids.
I am due right around Halloween (end of Oct) with a girl. Her brother was initially upset about this and argued with the midwife to check again! He’s reconciled to his minority status now and tells “Baby Marianne” jokes most mornings. He wanted to name her Hiccup and still occasionally calls her this to see my reaction. Hm. Goose is super excited NOT to have another brother and is such a big help around the house. She is very into all the biology of pregnancy, but gets devastatingly embarrassed.
This is definitely not our first rodeo, but we have have so many changes to our “norm” that it sometimes feels like it. Both of the kids were hospital births with the pitocin/epidural combo pack. With Stinker, the epidural stopped working during transition and I was left alone. DH went to find a nurse (shift change) and I worked through it by myself. After he was born, I noticed how much better my recovery was with the lessened epidural. I also realized that maybe I can do it without drugs and interventions.
So, to make a long list of reasons very short, we decided to have this baby at a midwife-run birthing center…mainly because it seemed like the best option for us and for what we wanted this birth to look like. I had four miscarriages before this pregnancy stuck and I need a different model of care. My midwives treat the entire person, not just a checklist of complications to look for, and they respect (and actually listen to) my intuition and body sensing. This is really important to me!
Our families have woefully proclaimed we have fallen off the turnip truck with our midwife-birth center-hypnotism ways, but I don’t mind. I know this is right for us at this time with this baby. Okay, so that wasn’t so short…
I chose to use Hypnobabies because my husband was starting to freak out with visions of a screaming Heidi in non-medicated labor. He didn’t say much, but I knew natural birth was even more scary to him than to me. It took a lot of courage for us both to decide on a birth anywhere other than the hospital. (goofy, but true) I figured a peaceful birth was a gift that I could give him as well as myself and our baby.
I am now seeing that Hypnobabies is such a blessing to our entire family. I still have three months to go, but I feel so GOOD. I sleep better than with the other kids’ pregnancies and I am healthier too. Doing the scripts and communication with Clint has helped us both feel confident in our decisions and look forward to the birth of Marianne with calm anticipation.
How is Hypnobabies different from
other Childbirth Hypnosis programs?
We are asked many times what is the difference between Hypnobabies and other natural childbirth or birth hypnosis programs, and here we answer that question by telling you what we do well without disparaging any other particular group. Other natural childbirth courses have excellent programs and benefits that have helped many women have better, more relaxed births. We recognize that and celebrate them and what they do every day for birthing women!
In Hypnobabies, our objectives are to help our pregnant couples bond with their baby in utero, teach you how to stay healthy and low-risk and be an excellent consumer, trust in your body, mind and baby, as well as become self-reliant and confident about birthing your own way; unmedicated, safely and in comfort. We overcome negative belief systems and programming, get you in touch with your own beautiful pregnant body, support you through your own excellent birth experience and give you skills that you will use for the rest of your life. Birth Partners are brought into the preparation process and have their own hypnotic relaxation cues, as well as a special role to play as they await the birth of the precious newborn with our Hypno-mom. Since we use real medical hypnosis techniques, addressing the mind, body, and spirit of both Mother and Baby, our success rate is wonderful and very gratifying!
Unique to Hypnobabies: We are not a regular birth hypnosis class. Hypnobabies is very detailed, comprehensive and successful, uses medical hypnotic anesthesia techniques, from Gerald Kein’s powerful Painless Childbirth program, as opposed to simple visualization and imagery, and contains the same kinds of powerful somnambulistic hypnosis scripts used by people who undergo surgery successfully using hypnosis as their only anesthetic.
Unique to Hypnobabies: Long before they ever step foot in their first Hypnobabies class, our Hypno-moms receive their first hypnosis CD with 2 tracks: Your Special Place, which allows them to learn and become proficient in deep physical relaxation, and Easy, Comfortable Childbirth, enabling them to easily master deep hypnosis and positive birth training. Each Hypno-Mom is able to learn deep relaxation and hypnosis skills for several weeks (or months!) before Hypnobabies Class even starts. This makes it much easier to learn her Hypnobabies Hypno-anesthesia Techniques in each class, bringing the Birth Partner into the preparation, (if they have one) and also how to use hypnosis for many other issues: nausea elimination, back and hip pain, insomnia, pre-term labor, pre-term bleeding, perineal massage, internal exams, turning a breech, etc.
Unique to Hypnobabies: 11 powerful, deep hypnosis audio tracks for use by our Hypno-Mothers as they learn, practice and use their Hypnobabies program, and 1 hypnosis track for our Birth Partners.
Unique to Hypnobabies: 2 separate hypnosis cues for entering hypnosis quickly and deeply, and 7 hypnotic deepening techniques.
Unique to Hypnobabies: 6 somnambulistic hypnosis scripts in booklet form, for use by our Hypno-Couples to work with as a team. Our Hypnobabies students participate in one new hypnosis script each week in class and their scripts booklet provides them with that same script to work with for reinforcement during the next week. This makes a huge difference when training the inner mind for success of any kind. It is called “compounding” in the world of hypnosis and is necessary for hypnotic suggestions to be retained by the woman’s subconscious. Working on progressively more powerful scripts several times week together also allows our moms to become “hypno-trained” to the touch and voice of their birth partner and therefore respond much more easily and quickly to birthing cues during labor.
Unique to Hypnobabies: We provide detailed, comprehensive training for our Birth Partners by providing them their own Birth Partner’s hypnosis CD for a calm and confident attitude towards pregnancy and childbirth, and their own 15 page detailed Birth Partner’s Guide booklet for labor, which allows them to fully grasp their role in the preparation for baby’s birth as well as easily supporting the Hypno-Mom during birthing. This includes 4 pages of verbal birthing cues which keep the Hypno-Mom in hypnosis during first stage, transition, beginning to push, the pushing phase as well as tools for remaining calm, relaxed, confident and comfortable in between contractions.
Unique to Hypnobabies: Hypnobabies can also be very successfully used by Single Mothers or those whose partners will not be participating in their birth preparation process since we have specific CD sets as well as personal help and support for single Hypno-Moms, to make their Hypnobabies journey easier and more fulfilling. All of our hypno-anesthesia techniques can be easily learned, practiced and used alone, or with a Birth Partner or doula.
Unique to Hypnobabies: Hypnobabies classes also provide excellent and Complete Childbirth Education, and we are the only birth hypnosis program that does so. Providing our *Complete Childbirth Education* ensures that our Hypnobabies students will not need to take other childbirth education classes where techniques and philosophies are learned which can negate childbirth hypnosis instruction. “Pain management and coping skills” are actually opposite of what is learned in Hypnobabies; we teach Pain Elimination by using real hypno-anesthesia, and attempting to embrace opposing belief systems can be detrimental to success with hypnotic childbirth. Including Complete Childbirth Education is essential for any birth hypnosis program.
Hypnobabies’ Complete Childbirth Education includes the following:
- Staying healthy and low risk
- Comfort in Pregnancy
- Detailed Birthing Choices
- Creating Informed Consent
- An in-depth Nutrition and Exercise program
- Avoidance of Toxic Substances
- Optimum Fetal Positioning
- Turning a Posterior Baby
- Stages of Labor
- Anatomy and Physiology of Birth
- Prenatal Parenting
- Avoiding Back Labor with the Abdominal Lift and Tuck
- Baby Kick Counting
- Belly Mapping
- The Risks, Benefits and Alternatives to Common Labor Interventions
- Birth Empowerment Skills
- Birth Plans & Baby Plans
- Touring the Birth Facility
- Doula and Midwifery information
- Avoiding Induction and Cesarean Section
- Delayed Cord Clamping and other Baby Kindness information
- Using hypnosis for 3rd stage
- Comprehensive and detailed birth preparation and labor support training for Birth Partners
- A 28 page Quick Reference booklet for labor
- Birthing Rehearsals using Hypnobabies techniques in class.
- Information on New Baby Care, Breastfeeding and Postpartum care for our moms.
Unique to Hypnobabies: Hypnobabies’ “Eyes Open Childbirth Hypnosis”, which allows each Hypno-mom to walk and talk and move around freely yet remain very relaxed, fully present, aware and in touch with her body and baby and *comfortable while doing so*. Other programs rely on immobility for focus and concentration, which can severely impede the progress of labor and the descent and positioning of the baby.
Unique to Hypnobabies: We conduct full Birthing Rehearsals in class # 6 so that our Hypno-moms can experience using their actual Hypnobabies techniques and many different labor positions *while in hypnosis in class* which is invaluable, and also shows the Birth Partner hands-on exactly how to use his/her cues and assistance. What a confidence builder, and has made a huge difference in success rates here at Hypnobabies!
Unique to Hypnobabies: Our very successful Hypnobabies Birth Visualization, in which you can mentally and emotionally practice entering labor, experience your comfortable birthing techniques and give birth easily and in a very detailed and personal way. This “mental birthing rehearsal” is very important to the process of easy and comfortable birthing and is done many times until your Hypno-baby is born, helping program the subconscious mind to produce exactly the kind of birthing you want. Athletes and public speakers of all kinds do this to prepare with great success, and so do our Hypno-moms!
Unique to Hypnobabies: Our wonderful 2-track Birth Guide CD which keeps our Hypno-mom deeply in hypnosis with constant hypnotic relaxation and anesthesia suggestions for both the first stage of labor and the pushing phase (no “Ring of Fire”) as well as “positive birth team” hypnosis throughout. Birth Professionals are fascinated at how completely relaxed and physically comfortable our Hypno-moms are, how easily they are able to move around and communicate and still be deeply hypnotized, and how “in control” they are of their bodies, minds and emotions. Our Hypnobabies students tell us that our Birth Guide CD is “Pure Gold!”
Unique to Hypnobabies: We require that our Certified Hypnobabies Instructors have a fully trained background in Childbirth and a minimum of 50 hours of Hypnosis training before becoming accepted into our Hypnobabies Instructor Training Program. This ensures that as a Hypnobabies Instructor, all childbirth questions and concerns from each Hypno-couple can be addressed, hypnotic depth can be assessed, and problems such as resistance and abreaction can easily be dealt with. We also require 32 hours of Hypnobabies Instructor Training and have a demanding and rigorous Instructor Certification process.
Unique to Hypnobabies: Our Hypnobabies Instructors are always available for help before, during and after your Hypno-baby is born, and we also have a free Hypnobabies Moms support group manned by certified Hypnobabies Instructors for support and encouragement so that you can enjoy a community where others are using Hypnosis for Childbirth as well.
Unique to Hypnobabies: Hypnobabies includes 18 hours of classroom instruction instead of 8 or 10, and although other childbirth programs may contain some excellent hypno-tools for birthing, none contain the amount of information, in depth hypno-anesthesia, training, practice and support of Hypnobabies. All elements have been carefully designed to work together and the results are excellent.
Hypnobabies is an empowering choice for any woman wanting Hypnosis for Childbirth that works easily and beautifully!
Hypnobabies® Childbirth Hypnosis
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If you know your LEGAL rights, and insist on them, CPS and even the police are rendered impotent in court. The more you are educated and empowered and insist on your LEGAL rights as childbearing women and as new parents, the less likely you will have them taken from you.
State mandated protocols about what is medically ‘safe’ and ‘necessary’ have been ‘wrong’ very many times in the past, and mothers and their babies have been harmed. For that reason, it’s important that PARENTS understand that YOU have the LEGAL right to the final say about how you give birth to your baby, and the right to make all decisions in your baby’s treatment during the immediate postpartum period.
I was due on January 28th, the day before my 35th birthday and on Feb 1st, I still had no signs of my birthing time beginning. My brother and his wife called to see if there was anything going on and I told them there was nothing – not a single birthing wave. But I was fine waiting for the baby to come whenever he or she was ready. I was 40 weeks and 4 days and agreed to a non-stress test at 41 weeks so that’s the only thing I was dreading a little. Otherwise, I was completely fine waiting.
I remember looking at the clock when I got off the phone with them and it was 9:30pm. I felt my pelvis ache when I got off the phone but it passed. I asked my husband if he would read me a Hypnobabies script. I had been mostly listening to the scripts on CD during the maintenance phase of the program. But I loved hearing him read the scripts to me more than listening to them on CD so I was glad he agreed to read me one. It had been a while since we had done that. We probably finished the script at about 10:30 pm. I remember feeling my pelvis ache twice during the script. After the script was over, we turned out the lights and I had another ache in my pelvis that came and went.
I didn’t think anything of these aches because they felt nothing like how anyone had ever described birthing waves to me. To me, it felt like someone was tightening a vice on my pelvic bones. I just figured it was pregnancy discomfort, as I was pretty miserable towards the end of my pregnancy. Then I had another sensation and decided to look at the clock, just to see if there was a pattern. It was 10:59pm. Another one at 11:09pm. Then around 11:25pm. Then 11:34pm. I got up to use the bathroom and had some bloody show. I hadn’t had any spotting throughout my pregnancy so that was definitely different.
I came back to bed and told DH that I thought someone might be starting. He went back to sleep and I spent the next half-hour or so just sending my anesthesia to my pelvis and relaxing through the waves. I got up a little after midnight to call the midwife and give her a head’s up, even though I felt silly for calling her so soon. I went back to bed and relaxed through the waves and got up a few times to use the bathroom, only to see more bloody show. I called the midwife back around 3:00am to tell her the waves were still coming and seemed stronger and closer together. I tried to wait as long as I could to wake up DH but after I called the midwife, I woke him up and told him I thought I needed some help.
The midwife said to try a bath so DH ran a bath for me. I got in and laid on my side and he put the CD player in the bathroom so that I could listen to my Birthing Day Affirmations while he rubbed my lower back, as I was starting to feel discomfort in that area along with my pelvis. Then I would turn on my other side for a while and do the same thing. I felt like I was relaxing very well and just saying, “Ahhhh,” during every wave. At that point, I was making noise because it felt good. I decided to get out of the bath after an hour or so and tried a few birthing waves leaning over the side of our bed and on my hands and knees.
Around 5:00am, we called the midwife again. She asked if I wanted someone to come be with me but I told her I could call her back in an hour. I called her back in 45 minutes! I told her I probably needed someone to come check on me, as things weren’t slowing down at all. I realized now that I was making noise because I HAD to. I had DH call my mom and tell her to come (she had about an hour drive) and to call my fellow Hypnobabies instructor, Susan, who was going to be at the birth. I wondered before the birth how I would feel about having people around me while I was in my birthing time but in that moment, all I knew is that I wanted all the help I could get!
My mom thought we were going to call her back later to tell her to definitely come but when DH told me this, I told him to call her back and tell her to definitely come now! It seems like everyone got to the house around 7 or 7:30am. I can’t remember who got there first but by that time, the midwife’ assistant and Susan were there, faces smiling knowingly at me! The midwife’s assistant asked it I wanted to be checked and I told her I wasn’t sure because I was worried I wouldn’t be very far along. I asked her what she thought and she said she thought it would be a good idea to see where I was.
So she checked me around 7:45am or so and I was 6cm! I had never been as happy as I was to hear that! My birth team started getting the birth pool set up and DH rubbed my back and butt through each birthing wave. Susan ran back and forth to give me physical and verbal cues during birthing waves and work on filling up the birth pool in between. I finally got in around 8:30am. I hung over the edge of the pool and the water felt so good. I had little bites of bagel and cream cheese in between birthing waves and plenty of water. DH, Susan, and my mom were all surrounding me.
The physical and verbal cues were really helpful because I had practiced them so often and was able to relax instantly when I heard or felt them. I was still breathing deeply and Ahhh’ing through the birthing waves. I felt like I got louder and louder as the intensity of the waves built up. But I was focused on relaxing and it felt good to keep leaning over the edge of the pool. Pretty soon, I started to feel my body bear down and I let the midwife’s assistant know. She called the midwife to give her an update. They were trying to figure out if she should leave the third-time mom she was currently with or stay with her.
So the midwife’s assistant asked me to get out of the tub to get checked, so they could make a decision. I was fully dilated and it was about 9:00am. I got back in the tub and they called the backup midwife, who was about 45 minutes away. Susan put the Pushing Baby Out track on in the kitchen where I was. The midwife’s assistant told me to still try not to push but let my body do the pushing. I think that was partly because she wanted the backup midwife to get there but mainly to just allow for a gentle second stage.
I was a little confused about what I should be doing so I tried not to add to my pushing but my body was definitely pushing. It was getting harder to try and relax but I felt where the baby was inside of me and I could feel that he or she was making progress downward so that was inspiring! At one point, I felt a little pop inside and I think that was the hindwaters releasing because I could still feel the forewaters very taut around the baby’s head. The was so much pressure that I thought about asking the midwife’s assistant to break the forewaters but right when I was thinking that, she said how good it was that they were there to protect the baby’s head. The midwife’s assistant let me know that the baby would be crowing in the next few birthing waves.
I remember feeling intense pressure as he or she crowned and I let out my only shriek as the baby’s head came out, although I had to be told that that’s what had just happened. The baby didn’t wait for the next birthing wave but came out all at once instead. It was 10:58am. The midwife said, “There’s the baby,” and nudged him or her between my legs. I turned around quickly and brought the baby up out of the water as I sat down. I looked and said, “Oh! It’s a boy!” He was making noises and had a great heart rate. DH laughed and said, “You caught him yourself!” The back up midwife walked through the door right after he was born. We couldn’t believe we were holding our baby boy after waiting so long for him and that everything had gone so smoothly!
I am so happy to announce the births of Alexandra and Sophia (identical twins). They were born on Nov. 23 at 10:00 am and 10:03 am using Hypnobabies of course!
So here is a little background…
In May 2010 we learned that we were pregnant, which was already a shock but looking at the U/S we saw TWO hearts beating, which was even more of a shock… So having had quite p**nful births in the past (my 3 other beautiful daughters :))I decided to do some research on birth under hypnosis and that’s how I found Hypnobabies (SUCH A BLESSING!!).
So about 3 months prior to my guess date I decided to order the program and started it about 9 wks before my guess date. I was already listening to the “Twins tracks” and just needed to do the 5 week course. I had such a great time listening to my tracks every night!! (I miss that now!!), not sure if it would work as I always fell asleep listening to them… But I tried to listen to each track at least once while staying “awake”.
On Nov. 15 (34 wks pregnant) I went to my OB and I was already dilated to 2… On Nov. 22 I was 3 so one of my OB (Doc A) told me that we would just wait until the following week and see what would happen while the other (Doc B) wanted to admit me the following day and start the induction because she felt better knowing that I would already be at the hospital would things really start moving (I have a history of fast labor and I’m “very high risk” plus this time it was twins) So we agreed to come the following day at 5:00 am. I have to specify here that Doc A was not on board with Hypnosis while Doc B was totally for it! So I really wanted Doc B to be there for the birth!!
Well that day (still the 22nd) I was having pressure waves that I could feel were making things move, I knew I was getting close. So around 6:00 pm my DH and I decided to head to the hospital and I got admitted right away to a L&D room, I was 5 cm at that point. They decided to just let my body do his work until the morning because Doc B was not on call that evening, which is exactly what I wanted anyway(I had visualized the birth coming on its own when the babies decided, and that’s what happened). BOP We had to deal with the anesthesiologist who really wanted me to have an epidural because Twin B (Sophia) was transverse/breech at that point(end BOP). My DH was really my advocate and while I was in my BOP he was the one making clear that this was not an option, we were so confident that Sophia would turn the right way when she would have the room… My DH kept telling the docs the babies will be born one after the other, you’ll see!
So I spent a peaceful night with my pressure waves continuing to do what they were suppose to do but I was able to sleep through them! I just felt pressure really, no p**n!!
Tuesday morning was there and at 9:15 I was a good 6 to 7 cm and that’s when they decided to break my bag of water, no pitocin (a first for me :)) I was so relief to know that we would not use pitocin!! And well of course the transformation phase began pretty much right away and my DH was helping me with his hand on my forehead, repeating all the wonderful things that are written on the script for the transformation phase. I felt the pressure but again NO P**N!! This is truly amazing to me because believe me with my other births, this phase was not pretty!! I spare you the details but I was not smiling! Doc A (the skeptic one) was in the room at that point and he could not believe that I was still smiling between my pressure waves, he said that he really liked being in the room with us because it was so peaceful compare to the hectic world outside our room 😉 that made me smile even more!
After probably 15 min of transformation, just when Doc A decided to leave the room (thinking it would still be a while), I told my DH:”GO get him, I’m ready!” (As Sophia may have stayed breech they wanted to move me to the OR…) So my DH told the doc:”Doc, it’s now or never, babies are coming!” So Doc A came and checked me and said:”Well, that’s what the perfect patient would tell you! She is complete and baby is at a station 2″ He did not believe how I went through the transformation!
Well, I lost my concentration at that point because I knew I had to wait to be in the OR before pushing, so I breathed out and tried to not push, which is so hard… Finally we were in the room where I would welcome my babies, so I started to push and 2 min later Alexandra was there, breathing right away! They put the U/S probe on my belly to see how Sophia was and just as I visualized all those months she was vertex and ready to come! So I gave another push and there she was, breathing right away too! Just 3 minutes after her sister!
They both had an apgar score of 9/9, weighed 4# 4oz and measuring 16.5″. Tiny but super healthy and alert and so peaceful after the birth, you could really tell that they did not have much stress during the birth, all that thanks to Hypnobabies!! I cannot tell you the excitement in that room, everybody in there was amazed about this birth (and there were quite a few people in there!! About 10 all ready for an emergency that never came).
My placenta was delivered a few minutes afterwards and I did not have any tear 🙂 I know they were small but still 2 went through… Super fast recovery 🙂
Doc A was sold, he said, “That’s it, I’m going to use hypnosis to lose weight” 🙂
I was the first vaginal twin birth for a lot of those folks in that OR room… and actually that day I was the only vaginal birth of the whole postpartum floor! Scary when you think of it!!
We had to stay one week in the NICU because they could not regulate their temperature but we are all home now and enjoying our little miracles, our 5 girls!
I just have to add that I chose to use Hypnobabies and make it work! Just like Kerry says in her article “why hypnosis works for some and not for others”. That is very important I think, choose to make it work and it will!
I tell everyone about how wonderful the birth of my girls was and my DH and I recommend Hypnobabies whenever we can, I love how my DH speaks about Hypnobabies, it’s just like if he had gone through it himself, adorable!! I’m so thankful to have such a great husband!!
Thank you again to all of you who supported me during these challenging times and thank you Kerry for making such a wonderful program! The only thing is that I loved it so much that I may want to use it again…