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Kerry

Hello, I’d like to take a minute to thank the Hypnobabies team for helping me have the best birth experience of my three children.

I live overseas in France and had to go through my first pregnancy without the help of my mom, sister or good friends.  I was learning lots of pregnancy related vocabulary in French, trying to navigate through the medical system here, and in retrospect, I was like a little girl who did what everyone said without really thinking about what kind of birth I wanted to have.  I had an epidural (after having been stuck 4 times with the needle) and my son was born early in the morning.

I never thought that the birth of my next child would be much different, but my water broke first and we arrived at the hospital to wait while the anesthesiologist was busy with an emergency c-section.  I hadn’t taken any birthing classes since my first pregnancy and wasn’t mentally prepared to handle a natural birth.  I panicked and didn’t know how to breath or focus.  By they came for the epidural, I felt like my body was going to be ripped in half. They tried 16 times to put the needle in my spine before I told them to stop and examine me – my daughter basically came flying out as soon as I lied down on the table.  I had less pain the next day than with my first birth, but the 16 holes in my back made me promise myself that for the next children, I would do things my own way.

When I found out I was pregnant last November, I decided that I wanted a natural, home birth. I called all the midwives in my area, but unfortunately in France, there are few midwives who agree to this because they are not insured for home births.  I next looked into birthing clinics but they only exist in the larger metropolitan areas.  The midwife that agreed to do my birthing classes gave me the alternative – have the baby at the hospital and leave the next day if both the baby and I were healthy.  The midwives then do the check-ups at your home for the next 4 days.  In order to really prepare for the birth, I started looking into more methods for a pain free birth that I could do at home.  That’s when I stumbled on to the Hypnobabies website.  I really enjoyed the testimonies from other moms and when I started listening to the CD’s, I really felt at peace with my choice.

So on August 18th I woke around 7:30 with a contraction that was slightly painful…since I was just 4 days from term I had a feeling that this was going to be the day.  Throughout the morning, I prepared breakfast for my two older children, husband and parents-in-law and did some cleaning around the house.  At lunch I told my husband that the contractions were getting stronger and that if they continued then the baby would certainly come that night.  He was very glad that the birth happened while he was on vacation!  After lunch, I dropped my kids off at a friend’s house and she said that she could bring them home if I had to leave for the hospital.  All this time, the contractions were coming about every 20 minutes and I kept using the Hypnobabies technique that minimizes the pain but lets you move about and talk to others.

I returned home and decided to take a bath around 4:30 and listen to my favorite Hypnobabies CD track.  My husband had left to help a neighbor get a load of firewood, so I told him to keep his phone on and to hurry!  At 5:00, I called my husband and told him he had better hurry home…then I called the hospital and told them I would be arriving in the next 30 minutes.  My contractions started speeding up and I was using the Hypnobabies techniques, walking, and a gym ball during each contraction.  Then my husband took a quick shower, but our friend called and couldn’t bring the kids home so my husband went to get them and I started panicking because I felt something like the head.  I checked myself and wasn’t sure what it was, but later the midwife told me it was the water bag.  She said I was very lucky that it didn’t break or I would have had the home birth I so wanted!  So I was finally able to leave for the hospital at 6:00 and the whole time I kept praying there would be no traffic jams and I held on the handle in the car to keep from sitting completely down.

We arrived at the hospital 20 minutes later, directly at the emergency room when I felt my water start to break.  The nurse wheeled me to the maternity level and directly into the delivery room, where I barely had time to get undressed before my water starting trickling even more. The midwife examined me and said that I was fully dilated, so she had me lie down and said not to do anything so she could get ready.   Well, my baby didn’t agree with that…he was ready!  The water bag had completely descended and burst and three pushes later, my second son was born.  My husband arrived on the second push…he had to park the car.  I asked the midwife to let the cord continue to beat until she cut it, which she did.

My son barely made a sound when he came out – a small cry and then he snuggled up to me.  I do like this hospital because they leave you, the baby, and the father to bond for about 30 minutes until they come back to deliver the placenta and clean up.  Our little Owen was so calm that I had to ask if he was even breathing!  I believe that my birthing choice and the fact that I was able to stay calm, focused and in a hypnotic state had an enormously positive influence on my son.  I honestly feel like I was in charge of this birth.  I was able to keep it natural with no epidural, no perfusions, no exams every 30 minutes.  The choices were mine and I was able to leave the next day.  Owen  is a wonderful addition to our family and we can’t wait to complete it with a fourth baby in the next year or two.

My midwife asked if there were any plans to translate the CD’s – she enjoys learning about new techniques to include in her birthing classes.   If you ever are interested in that, I do translation work here in France and would be happy to discuss that option.

Cordially,

Merry

Chênehutte-Trèves-Cunault, France

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I was using Fertility Awareness Method to concieve, so I knew when I er, I mean WE concieved so the EDD (Oct. 18) was amusing to me. When anyone asked, “When are you due?” I would say “October…,” when pressed for a day I would say, “oh I dunno, babies are on there own schedule.” Well, I did not know then how much truth was in those words!
Well, I had an absolutely amazing pregnancy; I started the self study at 8 weeks! Just a couple waves of mild nausea during the first trimester, I taught yoga up to 38 weeks, I practiced yoga up to 40 weeks. Then at my 41 week appointment my midwife started talking to me about going to an OB-GYN and getting a check up at 42 weeks. I still wasn’t concerned because I was born 2 weeks “overdue” and so was my younger sister. I thought surely I’d start birthing by that Monday.

Well, Monday came and we found ourselves in the doctor’s office. I was trying to tell myself it didn’t matter how our baby came to us, but I was sick with worry; I didn’t want to be induced. They gave me my second ultrasound of my pregnancy. The doctor said everything looked good and they were measuring our baby at 39 weeks so I could go back under my midwife’s care. They also did a cervical sweep, which was not any more uncomfrtable than a pap smear but everyone kept asking me if I was ok with the p**n during the procedure.
After the doctor’s visit I was elated I had more time, but more determined than ever. I ramped doing everything I had been doing; acupuncture, chiropractic, sex, walking, and listening/practicing Hypnobabies. I also tried going up in the mountains hoping the altitude would move things along (btw, it just made me have to pee more than I already had to and I only had two good pressure waves), and I purchased and began listening to “Baby Come Out!” I listened to it for a couple days and thought, “Ugh! NOTHING is working!” So I stopped everything.

Then another day passed and I decided to try the “Baby Come Out!” track one more time because I truly believe Hypnobabies had made my pregnancy so easy up to that point. There is a part of that script that directs you to have a conversation with your baby about being born. I distinctly heard “I’ll be out tomorrow, Mama,” and I started crying hysterically. Just about that time my husband came home and asked what was going on. I told him I was hallucinating and I probably wasn’t even really pregnant! To which he replied, “Oh, honey!” I’m sure that must have been hilarious to see me with red swollen eyes and a giant belly saying I didn’t think I was pregnant!

The next day I woke up and went about my business as usual but crabbier than ever. I was so resentful to have to do laundry with my big belly! My husband came home in the afternoon and we decided to watch a movie. Then, I had a pressure wave that made me moan and get up and rock my hips, then another, then another! I told my husband I couldn’t possibly go to our midwife’s appointment like this, so he called her. She said she would call and check in a couple hours -if we didn’t call her first.

We continued to watch the movie, pausing more and more often for me to moan and wiggle; not because of p**n, but kind of like when you have to lift something REALLY heavy. Then I wanted to take a bath, the PWs started getting closer together so I decided to get out and move around some more. My husband and I decided to get the birthing tub going. I thought, “Well even if I’m not in my birthing at least I’ll be in a bigger tub!” A short while after we started setting up I had to stop to focus, and I was shaking during PWs.

My husband called the midwife to tell her. She had given us explicit instructions to call her about shaking, vomiting or water breaking (she had missed a hypnomom’s birth before 😀 ). I thought, “Is this transition-it’s only been an hour and a half?” She said she was on her way!
Her assistant arrived first-two hours  after our first phone call. I told her, “I don’t want you to be here for nothing,” she said “Um, it doesn’t sound like nothing!” The midwife got to our house 30 minutes later, and I said the same thing, so she offered to check me-I was 9 cm. She said I just needed my water to break so the head would engage.
Well, I normally took a nap the time of day when my birthing began, so I ran out of steam and began to nap between PWs. This slowed things a bit, but I believe my body knew what it needed to do. A few hours passed and it really only felt like one hour. My midwife suggested I get out of the tub and try a change of scenery, but when I began to get out I said no way! I really was so sick of being heavy the water felt so nice.

Then, a few minutes later-POP-my water broke. The midwife told the assistant, “Hmm, a 42 week baby with vernix.” I remember thinking,”That’s because I’m only 40 weeks and 5 days!” Then I was ready to get out and get in the shower. After showering for some time I said I wanted out, so out I came and my midwife began to talk to me about pushing.

I’m glad she did because I never had any overwhelming urge to push. So I pushed on the bed for about four pushes-hated that! Then I gripped a sheet they threw over the door and squatted and pushed for some time and said I wanted to dosomething to push where I didn’t feel like I had to stand back up, so my midwife suggested my husband sit on the edge of the bed and hook his arms under mine while I squatted deeply. This was the magic position!

I pushed a few more times, my midwife said to give it all my Mama Bear strength I pushed again. I pushed one more giant push expecting to just get his head to crown, but WHOOSH! He came out all at once and suddenly there was a baby in my arms! All I could say was, “HOLY SH*T!” over and over again. I was so surpised-I think I really think part of me believed I wasn’t pregnant and the other part (that actually believed I was pregnant ;D ) was so surprised he came in one giant push! Maximos was born November 6th 2010 at 12:31am!
It has now been two months of the most amazing experience in my life. I’m so proud of my body for growing a baby and pushing him out without drugs or medical intervention! In addition, I LOVE the look of awe on people’s faces when I tell them I had a natural childbirth and only felt uncomfortable when he crowned!

Thank you so much Hypnobabies!

So if you are still reading this, particularly if you are “overdue,” your baby will come, and your birthing will be beautiful!

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I love this birth video. Mom is so calm and confident despite the fact she is pushing before the midwife gets there.

Here is the background.

  • 6th Baby
  • Liz used Hypnobabies.
  • Midwife Called around 1 AM
  • This video was taken around 2 AM a few minutes before midwife arrives.

It was so incredible, feeling his head after the water broke, then seeing his head when I pushed it out, then holding his whole body as it came out. What an incredible way to be totally and completely connected to my baby and my body, and doing it all completely by myself was so incredible! I just really can’t describe how it felt other than completely natural and right!

From the minute I stepped in the tub not a single fear or doubt even entered my mind, I was so assured and confident. It was like someone else stepped into my body, someone who had done this hundreds of times. It was so perfect, so amazing, truly such a miracle!

You can read Liz’s complete birth story here.  It is inspirational!

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