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I started having some PWs around 9 last night. Nothing too intense, so I thought they were just more Braxton Hicks. I was tired and decided to lay in bed and watch TV at around 10. PWs were still coming, but they weren’t that strong. At about 10:40, I felt a pop. I knew it was different than anything I had felt before. I laid there for a couple more minutes and stood up. Water just poured out. Called for my husband and he was able to come in and get a towel underneath me. He started to get a little frantic as I stood there laughing, pouring water out. We called my parents b/c they were coming to stay with Will since he was sleeping. The midwife had told me on Thursday that as long as I was at the hospital within a couple of hours, it should be fine (I had tested positive for Strep B and needed antibiotics administered during labor). My parents left right away and live an hour from our place.

As soon as my water broke, the PWs became stronger and more intense. I bounced around on my birthing ball, put my scripts on my IPod and got into hypnosis. I felt really good then. Lots of pressure, but no pain at all.

When my parents arrived at our house, we left and headed to the hospital. At this point, my PWs were every 3 to 4 minutes apart and getting stronger. While in the car, I continued listening to my scripts and turning myself “off”. We arrived at the hospital and got checked in. All the rooms were full and they were cleaning the room that I would be in, so they asked us to wait in the waiting room for a while. The nurse didn’t think I was very far along anyway b/c I was so calm. When we got into the room at 1am, she checked me and was pretty surprised to find out that I was at 6 and most likely in transition. My PWs were now every 2 minutes apart, but I was still able to stay in the groove of my hypnosis, which helped me so much. Rob and our doula were wonderful too, and I couldn’t have done it without them. They were talking me through each contraction, encouraging me and using my cue words to trigger me to relax. I labored mostly on my knees on the bed with my arms draped over the top b/c that’s what felt best. I also had the doula putting a lot of counter pressure on my back. I didn’t realize how hard I was having her do it, but after Avery was born, she said, “Man, I bet your back is going to be sore tomorrow. You kept telling me to press harder and harder.” I guess she was right b/c I actually have some bruising on my lower back today from it.

Because I was able to stay so calm, my birthing time progressed quickly. I was breathing deeply through each PW, making low tone sounds and keeping my jaw loose to help open me up. I asked if they would check me again at almost 3am and I was at 9 centimeters.

At 3:40, I felt my body starting to push by itself which was a crazy feeling b/c I wasn’t initiating the pushing, my body was just doing it on it’s own. The midwife checked me and said I was complete and could push when I wanted with my next contraction. The pushing felt SO good. It was like a huge release. I was on all fours pushing and got her worked down pretty far. Then I went into a squatting position and pushed some more. My legs were pretty shaky, so I had to move from that position pretty quickly. When she started to crown, I got on my back, pulled my legs out and pushed her the rest of the way out in that position. I was still using my hypnosis and cues, so I never felt the “ring of fire,” though I did have a small tear that required 2 stitches.

Avery Wynn was born at 4:26am after being in my hospital room for less than 3 & 1/2 hours. She immediately latched on to my breast and nursed for about 45 minutes. About an hour after she was born, they came and weighed and measured her while I went to the bathroom for the first time. She weighed 7 pounds 12 ounces and is 20 inches long. She has a head full of dark hair and has stolen our hearts already. I can’t stop staring at her and she’s so alert and calm. She’s amazing.

After the delivery, the nurse kept going on and on about how she has never been a part of one like that before. It was fairly quiet, really calm and relaxing. No yelling, screaming or cussing. LOL She couldn’t believe how well my hypnosis worked and said she was bragging to all the other nurses about it. It just so happened to be her birthday too, which was pretty cool.

We are going to have to stay at the hospital for an extra 24 hours b/c since my labor went so quickly, I didn’t get as much antibiotics for the Strep B as they would have liked before I delivered. B/c of this, they took some of Avery’s blood today for testing and found her white cell count to be slightly elevated. They had to put in an IV to administer some antibiotics to her twice a day to get this regulated. They put it in her head and that just broke my heart. They said she took it like a champ though and never even woke up. They will test her blood again on Monday to make sure the white cell count has come down and as long as it’s okay, we will get to go home then. Pray that happens! We’re ready to take our girl home.

I’m feeling sore, but terrific. I had the “natural childbirth high” after my delivery and I never expected it to be that intense. The nurse told me that the adrenaline was coming, but WOW. I had so much energy and adrenaline that my teeth were literally chattering and my whole body was just shaking like a leaf. Crazy stuff! I’ve only slept 2 hours since I woke up yesterday morning to get ready for work at 6, so I’m going to try and get some rest tonight.

Thanks for reading if you made it this far!

I can’t say enough about Hypnobabies and how helpful it was during my birthing time.  I truly don’t think my birth would have been anything like it was had I not taken the program.  I got my VBAC and had a healing and transformative birth.  What a blessing!


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YAHOOO! Labor was only 10 hours, only 3 of which I spent in the Birth Center. I practiced with Hypnobabies throughout my 3rd trimester and even though I didn’t really listen to it during labor, I really felt that it contributed to my fairly straight forward fast labor. I just generally had a positive “I’m in control” feeling.  I was very vocal which is my personality so I don’t know if I was really your standard Hypnobabies birth.  Still I’m sure, I wouldn’t have been able to do it without my Hypnobabies practice.

I was 40 wks on Thursday and went in for my last appt at 3pm.  The midwife checked me and I wasn’t at all dilated.  She could get only one finger in.  I’d been that way for about a week.  Dh had predicted that the baby would come on Thursday because that’s what he wanted – his last final exam ended was on Thursday and he was ready for baby.  I scoffed because I had asked baby to come the weekend after Thanksgiving… and nothing!!

Labor started with bloody show around 10pm on Thursday and then I had really light 30 second pressure waves (contractions)every 2-5 mins at home for about 5 hours.  Then it kicked up a notch around 4 am lasting a min about 2 mins apart. We headed to the birth center.  When we arrived I was 4cm. I slept in between pressure waves  in the jacuzzi tub for another 2 1/2 hours.  Then, I had one really strong wave that got me out of the tub.  By this time I was 9 cm.  Holy cow! I went from 4 cm – 9 cm in 2 1/2 hours.  That’s some magic tub!!! The waves intensified and I started pushing and he was born within 40 mins.  I had 3 little tears even tho he was born with his hand against his face.  The midwives applauded!

Dh and I are so in love with our first born son. Long live Hypnobabies.  There is a great God in heaven who designed a miracle called birth. I’m so honored to have experienced it!

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Our baby Freya was born a few weeks ago. I had planned a hospital birth with midwives but it didn’t go exactly as planned. Birth is like that. =)

It was awesome.

Note: May need BOP. Does contain mentions of pain but awesome Hypnobabies Birth nonetheless.

Let me just say that that my first birth was sort of weird. My water broke first and I didn’t go into labor for quite awhile so I was looking at an induction. There was a lot of family stress at the time. I walked and walked and walked when I probably should have rested. We made a brief trip to L&D where the midwife confirmed amniotic fluid, we discussed what would likely be an induction the next day, and she confirmed that my cervix was tightly closed. My doula confirmed that I would unlikely go into labor if I hadn’t by then.

I did end up going into labor at the 14 h mark and then it got pretty wild. I got to the hospital at 5, chose to have an epidural, and dilated to 10 within an hour. And then they confirmed that the baby had not descended at all. Thanks to competent midwifery, they “allowed” my body to continue to labor for another five hours when DS completed his descent. I was posterior until the very end. I proceeded to have a vaginal delivery. I would have had a c-section with almost any OB. I was grateful for the unplanned epidural because it allowed me to have a vaginal birth but I really wanted it and this one to be natural. I hated the beached whale feeling of the epidural and I wanted an active role in this birth.

Well, I got one. =)

This time I prepared more faithfully with Hypnobabies (I started so late I only got about halfway through last time.) I also saw a chiropractor who resolved my breech presentation and saw a acupuncturist to encourage dilation. Honestly, I was skeptical at both but I think they probably helped. =)

My water broke at around 9 p.m. on Saturday. I took a shower and went to bed. Didn’t call DS, doula, or midwives because DS was doing something important and I didn’t think I would be laboring for a long time. I slept well and DS slept well. He was kind of annoyed the next morning so I probably should have called. I got my first gentle birthing wave at around 9 a.m. the next morning. I had gently ones every hour or so… I listened to “Early First Stages” “Deepening” tapes all morning toddler-wrangling but didn’t really try to stay in or use hypnosis.

At around 11 a.m. I started to feel a bit more pressure when a wavehit and I sent DS and DH to the park, intending to do a Fear Release and get into a deep state of hypnosis and maybe take a nap. I also called my doula to let her know that I thought my birthing time was starting. (I had hired a hypno-doula but hadn’t even met her yet.)

Well, about 20 minutes, yes labor started with a bang. The pressure waves started coming irregularly but strongly and progressively. I think I took four showers in about an hour. Spent some time on the the birthing ball. The Hypnobabies really did help, especially the visualizations like seeing my cervix opening and reminding me to relax- relax – relax.

It is funny how certain fears can prey on your mind. I actually avoided doing the Hypnobabies Fear Release for a couple of weeks. During this time I kept thinking that I needed to at least wait an hour to call my doula back. That it was just embarrassing to call a half an hour later and ask her to come. She had told me it would take an hour to get there as well. I finally surrendered but it took me quite awhile to get a break enough to actually make a phone call, which was in the other room. I think I was able to say something like “I need help” and she talked me through three pressure waves that came together. She later said that she drove very very fast after that phone call. I called my husband and told him to come home and call MIL to watch toddler. This was almost one p.m. I remember being pleased that I almost made it to my hour mark for the doula phone call.

[BOP warning] The pressure waves became far more intense with very little break. I no longer just felt pressure and yes, they were painful. If I was at the hospital I would have asked for something. Part of the pain was caused by fear– fear that it was going to continue for hours and hours and that the baby wasn’t descending again. I kept thinking open-open–open move-turn-rotate posterior baby. When I could I remembered all of the effort and ($!) I spent to get to this point with the chiro – accupunturist – doula. (I also had complete placenta previa for awhile.) Silly, right? Crazy active labor and the two thoughts I could string together is I spent a lot of money to feel this way! I can’t get an epidural again!

My husband got home at 1:30 and helped me through two pressure waves. Toddler was terrified because he came home and the lights were off the Hypnobabbies was on LOUD, the shower was pouring and mama was “vocalizing” on the potty. He went straight to the phone to call EMTs because he didn’t think he could transport me to the hospital. He tried to calm toddler at the same time. He came back a minute later and helped me through another contraction and I put my hand down and I had quite a lot of bloody show. I kept urging him to draw me a bath and get me some cold water. He left to get the water and calm hysterical toddler. He said something about EMTs.

I felt some really strong pressure in my rectum and thought it was some diarrhea. I was already near the toilet. I pushed down thinking I had to get it out and felt something I realized I had a head. It was *that* urge. It felt like a *huge* release because the urge to push and the pushing felt so much better than the pressure waves. I also had this huge flood of relief because it meant I had been through transition and that I was close to the end of labor. It was a wonderful, empowering feeling and I wasn’t scared in the least.

I had a flash that either this was a healthy strong baby or a baby in distress who needed to get out and I pushed hard. I didn”t feel any pain. The head came out and I could tell she was no longer posterior. At the next pressure sensation I pushed hard once or twice and she slid out. I lost my grip and she briefly landed in the toilet. I got a better grip and pulled her close. The cord was long enough that I could hold her close to my chest to maintain her temperature. She started to breathe. I felt amazing. We had a beautiful beautiful baby and I was just flooded with joy. I called loudly for my husband.

My toddler rushed in hysterical, saw the baby, and I asked him with a big smile if he wanted to meet his new sister. He ran out. My husband comes in says something about contractions – and um – we have a baby. Well, he was stunned. The 911 operator tells him to clear the mouth and he does. I hold her close.

The EMTs arrive about three minutes later and help me to the bed. There are (no joke!) twelve people in my bedroom to help with the “emergency.” I just gave birth to my baby and can’t help making snarky comments about our health care system in my head. Luckily there is a big waterproof pad there for morning toddler snuggle-peefest. They clamp the cord and we are transported the the hospital. Baby nurses the whole way. MIL has arrived and is with toddler.

After a brief stop at the ER we pick up doula in the hall and go L&D. Doula is great in that pushy doula way.. “You aren’t putting a lot of traction on the cord, right?” The OB on staff helps deliver the placenta. No tears, just a tiny skidmark.

This recovery has been *so* much easier than my first. Nursing is going well and Freya has already regained her birth weight.

The amazing thing is that I wasn’t scared at all during the delivery and it was so much more powerful and awesome then my first. I really have to thank both Hypnobabies and these boards for helping me be knowledeable and calm throughout the birth. Toddler likes baby.

It was so wonderful to be an, er, “active” participant in my birth.


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My son arrived on August 17th (6 days after the guess date). This was baby # 4 for me. I did not have a natural childbirth. Here’s my summary:

My last 2 children arrived the day after my doctor said that I was dilated 1 cm. I expected the same thing to happen this time, but I was dilated 1 cm for 3 weeks and there were numerous times when I thought my birthing time had started. I became very frantic and could not sleep the last 2 weeks or so of pregnancy. Both my mom and mother-in-law were very ill, which added to my anxiety. I was wondering who would keep my other 3 children while I was in the hospital.

I woke up on the morning of August 16th with pressure waves (about 7:00 a.m.). They weren’t painful, but not comfortable to sleep through. I didn’t think much of it since this happened so many times before. The pressure waves were steady all day…ranging from 9 to 11 minutes apart and they seemed to get stronger. I had some bloody show starting in the evening and the pressure waves got as close together as 3 minutes for a couple of hours. But, they were not long enough to make me feel as though I should call the doctor. I did not sleep that night.I had an appointment with my doctor at 10:45 on the 17th. I was only 3 cm, but 80% effaced. My doctor said that I could go to the hospital or wait at home…my decision. The pressure waves were not coming together as I had hoped and I thought I would labor all day without assistance.

I decided to head to the hospital and agreed to pitocin since I was so wiped out and just wanted to see my baby. I checked in at 11:30. I kept refusing the epidural. I had decided to get one, but not until my water broke. I was warned that I would deliver extremely fast after my water broke, so I consented to the epidural at 7 cm/100% effaced.

Although I did not have a natural birth, Hypnobabies helped me greatly. I am extremely afraid of hospitals and medical staff. I was able to use my lightswitch and visualize aneshesia during contractions and to block out my fears. I was amazed at how well it worked. My epidural did not work and I was 9 cm with just my Hypnobabies techniques. The aneshesiologist shot some type of meds into the line and I could no longer feel contractions. It was kind of a waste since my doctor arrived shortly after and my son was born. He was born at 3:48 and was 8 lbs 10 oz and 22 inches. Note-I was warned of a huge baby for months and I don’t consider this big….all of my other children were about the same size.

Although my birth did not go the way I planned, I am very greatful that I discovered Hypnobabies. It helped me to sleep better (I’ve had insomnia since childhood) for most of my pregnancy. I felt healthier and more fit than in my prior pregnancies. I feel like I am recovering extremely fast also. It definately helped with pain relief also…like magic.

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This is the story of my baby Paul’s beautiful home birth on the morning after his guess date, and the events leading up to it.

Wow, was that a huge surprise to us or what!  My first baby was induced 12 days past his guess date and my second baby was induced 8 days past her guess date.  We certainly weren’t expecting this baby to be more or less on time!  We were just putting DS (4 y/o) and DD (2 y/o) down for nap/quiet time when my water broke.  DH was just finishing up reading a story to DD and I had gone to her room and closed her blinds and gotten things ready for her to nap.  I was walking back down the hall to the living room thinking to myself, “Hmmm, so this is the guess date.  I guess if we’re ever going to have a guess date baby we’ll have to wait for another pregnancy since nothing’s happening today.  Oh well, only something like 3% of babies are born on their guess dates anyway…”  And no more than 2 seconds later my water broke!  But I didn’t know it at the time.  It felt like the baby whacked me inside with a wrench, a very weird and sore sensation I hadn’t felt before.  I yelped, “OW!” and tried to describe it to DH.  The next “braxton hicks” wave felt very different too.  I was sitting down at the kitchen table and making out the grocery shopping list, but when I got up I started to leak a little bit of clear fluid with white flecks (vernix?).  This happened with the next 3 waves, soaking a pad and then some each time.  At first I thought maybe it was just the mucus plug, since I heard that sometimes it can be very watery.

DH went to get our weekly groceries, and I called my midwife at around 4:00 pm.  She said it sounded like my water broke, and since I hadn’t felt baby move for a while (which was normal for this pregnancy–I guess a prenatal sign of how good a sleeper and mellow he is!) she wanted me to come in so she could listen to his heartbeat.  She told us to stop by a local restaurant to get some eggplant parmesan on the way since we most likely would be trying to have this baby within the next 24 hours.  WOW!  That totally shocked me!  I hadn’t even washed our gender-neutral baby clothes yet!!  I had washed the blankets, but not the clothes.  I quickly put that load of laundry on and started getting things ready for the trip to the midwife’s house (about 30 minutes away).  DH got home and I quickly washed the grapes he bought and stuck them in the freezer, since our midwife suggested we have some frozen grapes on hand for the birth (and now they are one of my favorite foods!  Delicious!).  We called in the order for the eggplant parmesan and quickly unpacked the groceries and headed off.  We were listening to Weird Al and Flight of the Conchords, of all things, on the radio on way there!  Good to keep a sense of humor about it, I guess. 🙂 But I did end up with some bizarre songs stuck in my head during my birthing time thanks to that!  Everything was fine with baby when we got there, and we were given instructions to call every hour or two, or if anything changed, to let her know how things were going.  I was also to take another dose of evening primrose oil (I had been taking 3000 mg twice a day to ripen my cervix) and an extra couple of 5W herbal pills which help prepare the body for birthing.  The midwife also told me that she had been praying that this baby wouldn’t be born “late” like the others.  I was really touched to hear that.  I was very blessed to have a midwife who shared our faith.

We stopped by the store on the way home to get some castor oil per midwife’s instructions and some ready-made dinner for DH and the kids.  As we were walking around the store, my pressure waves were getting closer and more intense.  I was putting my “Peace” cue to good work!  We also looked for some liquid calcium which was on the list of supplies to have ready (although our midwife told me that just having regular calcium pills was OK too).  I remember swaying through a pressure wave waiting for help from the pharmacist, just smiling to myself thinking how the customers and workers at the store would be shocked if they knew I was actively in my birthing time.  We picked up some Lunchables for the kids’ dinners and a sub sandwich for DH while we were there.  The last few pressure waves in the car on the drive home were very “interesting” indeed!  I was happy to get home and bounce on the birthing ball for a bit while DH and the kids ate their supper.

I quickly put the clean, wet baby clothes in the dryer. 🙂  I called to give our midwife an update around 8:00 pm, pressure waves were about 5-6 minutes apart.  She said she was on her way over, but I told her I didn’t think she needed to come just yet.

DH got the kids tucked into bed after I took my last pregnant photos with both of them.  I fluttered around trying to get stuff done (blow up the pool, etc.) and then decided to take a shower.  That wasn’t the brightest idea, since it depleted our hot water that we were trying to fill the birthing pool with!  Fortunately we were able to get the pool filled before I needed it anyway.  The midwife called while I was in the shower and told DH she was coming over.  She got here around 10:30 and asked if she could check me.  We live in a somewhat rural area, and I allowed her to check to get an idea of whether or not her assistant should come right over or wait a bit before coming.  I was only 2 cm (she checked me the previous Friday and I was 0 cm but “soft”).  My pressure waves were feeling a lot stronger, but I wasn’t having much trouble relaxing.  The midwife stayed until 11:30 pm, setting up all her stuff for the birth.  Then she said that the best thing is for us to get some sleep, for me to sleep between contractions if I could, and that she would go home and be ready to come back when I couldn’t sleep anymore.  She told me to drink a little glass of warm OJ with 2 tablespoons of castor oil and take five more 5W pills as well as my strong brew of red raspberry leaf tea before bed.

At this point I was really exhausted.  I went to bed late the previous night and got up extra early (and couldn’t sleep for over an hour in the middle of the night, being stressed out about baby names of all things!).  I was going to take an afternoon nap, but then my water broke and so those plans never worked out either.  Another plan for “next time” is to make sure I get to bed early every single night from 38 weeks on!

I made a little bed on the couch, on top of one of the blue pads from my birth kit, and DH slept next to me on the floor.  We had the Hypnobabies birth CD playing on the kitchen radio.  I dozed off for a few minutes and woke up in a lot of discomfort from a very intense pressure wave.  I had been using my Hypnobabies techniques, but of course I couldn’t really focus on that and sleep at the same time.  After that wave was over, I got up and tried some different positions, sitting on the ball, etc.  I found that the Hypnobabies techniques weren’t helping as much as they did earlier in the evening (but they did help quite a bit, since all of those pressure waves while I was actively using my techniques were a LOT better than the one I woke up from).  I didn’t want to wake up DH, since I knew he was also very tired and we had a long night ahead of us.  I was feeling desperately tired, so I decided to sit on the ball and lean up against the arm rest of the couch, with a couch cushion wedged between me and the couch to rest my head on.  I fell asleep for about 10 minutes and again woke to a horribly uncomfortable pressure wave.  But this time I felt a little more refreshed.  That mini-nap really made a difference!

I decided I really didn’t want to wake up to another one of those unmanaged pressure waves, so I got up and managed another one which was better, but still very intense.  I decided things were getting really serious and I woke DH at 12:30 am, who helped me through every wave from then on.  What a difference that made!  With Hypnobabies, there is a cue that the husband or doula or whoever can use–put a hand firmly on the shoulder or forehead of the mom and say “Relax.”  This really helped me a LOT!  There were some pretty intense waves that instantly felt much, much better when DH did this.  Mostly it just made them feel partially better, though (about 60% more comfortable than without).  But this cue also helped me stay relaxed, which really was the main thing.  Next time I’m going to spend a lot more time practicing this with him, since unfortunately I only practiced with him 3 times (and hence it only 100% completely relieved the discomfort of pressure waves about three times, ha ha!).

I called my midwife, and she arrived a little past 1:00 am.  She checked me and I was at 5-6 cm with pressure waves 2-3 minutes apart.  I was so happy to hear that, since I barely made it past 3 cm with my previous 2 (hospital) births before getting the epidural.  And those labors were very p***ful and difficult to cope with compared to what I was experiencing in my Hypnobabies home birth.  She gave me the go-ahead to get into the birth pool, so I went to the bathroom first and then got in.  Since my baby was posterior, the midwife suggested it might feel good to lean over the side of the pool.  I tried it for one wave, but it felt horrible!  I tried a few different positions, some made the pressure waves feel better but gave me cramps in my legs.  Finally I found something that worked.  I was a little disappointed because the water really wasn’t making things feel much better than they did on land.  And the shoulder-touch “relax” cue that DH had been using with me successfully on land wasn’t working as well in the water.  I realized that on land he had been using my left shoulder, but now how I was sitting, he was using my right shoulder since it was closer.  I told him “that shoulder isn’t working!” and he moved to a place that was more behind me, where he could reach my left shoulder again.  But I didn’t like having him behind me versus in front of me for some reason.  Thinking back on our practice sessions, I now remember he always used my left shoulder from the front during practice and never my right.  I’ll make sure we practice lots on BOTH shoulders from BOTH directions if we’re ever blessed with another baby!  It wasn’t long after that, maybe a wave or two, before I got to transformation.

I had 2 transformation waves and then I thought I had to go to the bathroom for #2.  My midwife asked if I had any pressure on my bottom because she thought the baby might be coming soon.  I said I had a little and needed to go to the bathroom.  She said it might be the baby coming, and I thought “YAY!”  But part of me didn’t believe I could be at that stage so soon.  I was tired and the waves were intense, but I didn’t feel like I was at the end of my rope (like I’ve read in many non-Hypnobabies birth stories as a sign that the baby’s almost here).  I got out of the pool, which was set up in the kitchen, and went to the bathroom down the hallway in between waves.  Somewhere at this time the midwife called her assistant and told her to hurry up and get here.  The assistant, was apparently on her way and almost to our house.  I sat down on the toilet and suddenly I had to push!  The midwife said, “You’ve got to move your hips to the edge of the toilet seat.  You don’t want this baby’s head to come out in the commode!”  But I had no idea how to maneuver that, so I just stood up, and I had another pushing pressure wave.  I told my midwife and DH that I couldn’t keep doing this standing up, and I wanted to try the birthing chair.  But unfortunately it wasn’t put together yet (it consisted of 2 pieces that slide together–easy to assemble, but we needed something NOW).  So we quickly decided to run down the hall to the bedroom between pressure waves.  Luckily we were prepared for the possibility of birthing on both the couch and the bed, with plastic and old sheets over both.  It was the weirdest feeling waddling down the hall (naked!) with the baby’s head coming down and the midwife’s hand practically holding it in!

We got to the bedroom and I jumped up on the bed just as the next wave hit.  At this point the waves were not at all p***ful–they felt so good!  The urge to push was so strong that I couldn’t help vocalizing a bit, but it wasn’t due to p**n.  And out came our baby’s head, while I was in the hands and knees position!  I heard our midwife say something about seeing a beautiful baby, and DH said something about that too, and I thought to myself, but the baby’s not out yet, how can they say he or she is beautiful?  Ha ha!  Anyway, then the midwife suggested I flip over to my back to push the rest of him out, with DH holding my legs.  Apparently there was a little shoulder dystocia and she thought trying this other position would help.  And it did!  Paul was born with the next push, for a total pushing time of 3 minutes!  He was born at 1:56 am.  And although I never got to listen to the “Pushing Baby Out” track, I felt absolutely no p**n or “ring of fire” as my baby was born–just relief from the pressure.

Paul had his umbilical cord wrapped once around his shoulders when he came out, and once the midwife untangled him, she placed him right on my chest.  I quickly checked to see if he was a boy or a girl and found out he’s a BOY!  Poor little guy was all pale gray-looking, and DH was sent out to the living room to fetch the oxygen tank.  We rubbed him with some towels, and he started breathing and crying after making a few little gurgly noises, no oxygen necessary.  Soon he pinked up nicely.  The midwife then took a look and said, as if surprised, “Yes, he IS a boy!”  Ha ha!  I guess she didn’t think I could have gotten a good look in such a short time.  I told DH that I was right!  I had been thinking it was a boy for the last few weeks, since every time I talked about the baby I used “he” or “him” for some reason, without really thinking about it.  Here is baby Paul’s very first picture, although unfortunately it came out blurry due to the low light in our room at the time (but I’m so thankful that my baby was born in such a cozy, loving environment!): http://im1.shutterfly.com/media/47b9d622b3127ccec793140cc02300000040O00AbMmzJuzZsmIPbz4a/cC/f%3D0/ps%3D50/r%3D0/rx%3D550/ry%3D400/ About one minute after he was born, the assistant arrived.  So much for that!

He latched right on and started nursing right away.  We waited about 20-30 minutes until the cord stopped pulsing, and then DH cut the cord.  Once Paul stopped nursing, they had DH take his shirt off and hold Paul skin-to-skin for a while, while I worked on birthing the placenta.  That was such a tedious thing to do.  I was so tired and just wanted to rest.  But our midwife kept telling me to push.  I didn’t have to work on this part of labor with DS or DD, and I was feeling lazy and exhausted!  But at the time I thought maybe it had to do with wanting to prevent too much blood loss since we were at home, after all.  The placenta was born 44 minutes after Paul.  I was so glad to be rid of it!  It looked healthy, with the cord insertion site on the side instead of in the middle like most placentas.  The midwife and her assistant asked us if we wanted to keep the placenta, and we gave them the go-ahead to double bag it and throw it away.

DH got to weigh Paul, and we joke about DH “playing the Stork” like some people “play Santa” ha ha!  Paul weighed in at 8 lbs 10 oz, one ounce heavier than DS was and 14 ounces heavier than DD was.  He was 21.5 inches long.  The midwife checked him out, and everything looked and sounded fine. Here’s a pic: http://im1.shutterfly.com/media/47b9d622b3127ccec792d7d3a04900000040O00AbMmzJuzZsmIPbz4a/cC/f%3D0/ps%3D50/r%3D0/rx%3D550/ry%3D400/ Then our midwife asked where his clothes were, and I told her that they were still in the dryer!  The assistant went to fetch them, and we went through the clothes together, picking out Paul’s first outfit.  We ended up dressing him in a little green onesie with footie pajamas over it, since the baby socks were still in the attic. I secretly bought that onesie as well as another one before we even got pregnant, planning on giving these to DH as a fun way of letting him know about the pregnancy.

The rest of the morning is sort of a blur.  They got me to drink various things, like a bottle of Gatorade, a glass of coke, and a glass of chlorophyll (eeewww, tastes like water out of a film canister!).  And then they got me up to the bathroom, but I couldn’t pee yet.  The midwife helped me take a shower, and I went back to bed.  At this point Paul was fast asleep, and all I wanted to do was to sleep too.  But they were bugging me to drink my drinks and eat my semi-frozen grapes, cheese sticks, and nuts.  DH and I were lying in bed with Paul, while the midwife and her assistant bustled around the house, cleaning up, doing laundry, and even unpacking our dishwasher for us.  It felt like the lap of luxury.  After a while, the midwife told me she couldn’t leave until I peed, so I got up and peed. 🙂  She gave us some instructions, and I fell asleep.  She stayed a little longer and helped DH do more cleaning up.  It was around 5:00 am or so when she left.  DH was still bailing out the water from the pool (the pump our midwife loaned us didn’t work with our hose, boo!) and getting the house kid-friendly again.  He didn’t go back to bed until after my mom arrived around 6:30 am to help with the kids.

DS woke up at 6:00 am and started talking about the baby with DH up in the front of the house.  I think he must have known something was up with all the excitement the night before.  I woke up when I heard him, and I called him.  He came into the bedroom and his face just lit up when he saw baby Paul.  It was so adorable!  He is still completely in love with his baby brother.  He just doesn’t like to let Paul out of his sight, it’s so sweet.  One of the first things he did when he saw Paul was to hold up 3 fingers and say, “Three kids to play with!” 🙂  In this picture he was counting Paul’s tiny little fingers: http://im1.shutterfly.com/media/47b9d622b3127ccec792b4f161f200000040O00AbMmzJuzZsmIPbz4a/cC/f%3D0/ps%3D50/r%3D0/rx%3D550/ry%3D400/ It was wonderful having my mom come over to look after the kids while DH, Paul, and I slept the morning away! 🙂

I am so very thankful that I used the Hypnobabies program to prepare for my birth.  Without a doubt, it helped my birth to go very smoothly, and I never want to birth without it again!!   Paul is such a happy, calm baby, and several of my friends think it has to be due to Hypnobabies and the calm, loving circumstances of his gentle birth.

Thanks for reading! 🙂

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Kim needed to have a planned cesarean due to medical reasons.  She decided to use the Hypnobabies Cesarean Birthing Day Set.    I was excited to hear about how her birth went and was happy that she let me share her story with you!

Hi mamas,
I’ve been following the posts but staying mostly quiet as my use for Hypnobabies was quite different than the rest of you.
I’m happy to say that we have a beautiful hypnobaby boy born by cesarean on Jan 5th. Hypnobabies really helped me stay focused and calm and my healing time started before the actual surgery started.
I did temporarily lose it when the anesthesiologist told me dh couldn’t stay in for the spinal, something that was really important to me. Then, within seconds, the head doc came in with a big smile and said, “Sure he can” and even joked that ‘real’ moms leave 24 hrs after surgery these days…LOL. I was shaking still, but quickly went back into my bubble of peace and focused on my baby and at that point didn’t even worry about some of the other things I wanted out of the norm.

I pictured my baby’s lungs healthy and ready to breath on his own. I pictured him so strong! At times I’d ask where we were (I wanted to be more present as he was born) and I’d visualize what was happening, watching with my mind’s eye.

DH was amazing! He whispered our ‘word’ as well as other key words and phrases Kerry used in the scripts. The surgery was easy (as could be). I had the mirror, but didn’t even look when the time came.

My OB honored my request and put my son up to my face all wet and fresh out so I could kiss him, like I would in a normal birth. Because of staffing issues, we were temporarily separated, but dad was with him. Within the hr I was in recovery, baby was latched on and nursing like a pro! I was up walking that night, disconnected from the iv and off meds by morning and discharged after 48 hrs (the min for c/s babies).
Hypnobabies also helped me with the after birth pw’s. These are always more intense than pre birth pw’s for me and even more so after surgery since I couldn’t move or sway through them. I used the relaxing breathing and imagined my uterus doing what it was meant to do for healing which made that so much easier.
I encourage everyone to do whatever possible to have natural vaginal births (having had both, there’s no comparison), but do know if circumstances change and you need a cesarean, Hypnobabies really helps!
Thanks for letting me be part of this group!

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Hypnobabies benefited me so much–not just during her birth, but also in the weeks leading up to it.  With my son I’d been impatient–totally the cliche waiting for that baby to arrive…this time I went past my guess date, and even had a false alarm where we almost went to the hospital (turns out it was just early labor–she arrived the next day), but I wasn’t impatient at all.  I enjoyed my pregnancy so much more in large part because of the Hypnobabies practice.

Earlier in the pregnancy I’d been diagnosed with prenatal depression, and I had desperately wanted to avoid using medication.  My friend recommended that I start my scripts at that point (I was 27 or 28 weeks) instead of waiting until 32 weeks as I’d planned, and I credit Hypnobabies with helping me to get past the prenatal depression without medication!

I wasn’t a perfect Hypnobabies student (there were days when I wouldn’t practice my scripts, and towards the end I kept turning them off after about 10 minutes), but I was still able to benefit from it greatly.  The birth was such a positive experience for me and my husband and was very healing because my first natural birth didn’t go as well–there was a lot of panic and crying and yelling.  Not fun for either of us!

The big thing I would have done differently in my study/practice is take the fear release more seriously.  I didn’t have any idea until it was too late, but I was afraid of the pushing portion of my birthing time.  And of course I didn’t realize that until it was time to push–too late to do anything about it!

(BOP, but I hope you’ll keep reading because I think you can learn from my mistake!)

Once I let fear in, I was unable to keep myself into hypnosis.  Even once I’d “failed” my Hypnobabies, though, the principles still helped me in the birth.  I was being a giant baby about pushing and refusing to push.  My midwife bossed me into doing it, but I was being wimpy about it and I kept saying out loud “I’m a bad pusher.”  But then I remembered from the Hypnobabies that you create reality, and I immediately STOPPED saying “I’m a bad pusher” and switched to “I’m a GOOD pusher” and it made all the difference in the world.  Suddenly my little wimpy all over the place efforts were directed and strong and it was over in minutes.

I’m so glad I used the Hypnobabies program and I hope you all have birthing times as wonderful as Ellie’s was for me!

Traci – Enjoy the Slide Show!

Ellie’s Birth from Traci on Vimeo.

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