It is hard to know exactly where to begin . . . I signed up for a Hypnobabies Class when I was 33 weeks pregnant for a personal home class with just my husband and I. I was a bit worried at first with me deciding so late in pregnancy that I needed to take the class but my wonderful instructor Katherine Stanglin convinced me it would still work and she was 100% right!!
This was my 2nd birth. My first birth was an induction 9 days past the guess date for high blood pressure. I was hooked up to Pitocin and instantly had waves for 13 hours and somehow managed to birth naturally and vaginally but with tons of medical interventions: pitocin, breaking my water, internal fetal monitoring, episiotomy – 3rd degree and vacuum. So needless to say I walked away from my first birth disappointed mainly in myself because there were times I begged for pain medication and an epidural but my mom and husband knew how important a drug free birth was that they didn’t listen to my begging.
When I became pregnant with my second baby I was thrilled but nervous and I had lots of fear surrounding the birth but I also was convinced to do whatever it took to make this a good experience and one I was proud of. I hired a doula, changed OB’s, changed hospitals and took my hypnobabies course. So here the birth story begins. My guess date was 11/25 and by this point I was exhausted and worn out and so ready to meet the baby and wondering if I would get to experience going into my birthing time on my own – praying it wouldn’t be like the first birth.
My mom convinced my husband and I on 11/28 that we needed to get out of the house and go to dinner and see a movie and she would babysit our 24 month old little boy that evening. We live ½ a mile from a great shopping center with a movie theater so we decided we would walk up and grab dinner and a movie. We hadn’t walked more that 250 feet when I fell and skinned both my knees on the concrete sidewalk. I started to cry and told my husband I was so big I couldn’t even walk anymore
We went back in and got the car keys so we could drive and some Neosporin for my knees. Needless to say we saw a fantastic movie and during the movie I thought to myself – hmm this feels different than the Braxton hicks – I could feel them starting at the top of the uterus and working there way down. They were totally comfortable and I didn’t mention anything to my husband until we were getting the car. I told him I wasn’t sure but maybe these were the real thing but I only had a few.
We went home – I mentioned them to my mom but told her I wasn’t sure and just wanted to try and sleep. We went to bed about 10:30 and I put Easy First Stage on my Ipod – Fell asleep and realized I had been out for about an hour and half – I slept through the majority of all my scripts throughout the 7 weeks I studies hypnobabies so I was used to this. I woke up close to midnight and felt like taking a bath. Then I felt a little hungry and I went down and had 2 cookies that my hubby and I made that day testing a recipe for Christmas Then I decided to lay in bed and time my waves with the contraction master application on my iphone.
I started at 12:48 because this was truly the first time I believed that this was really the day my precious baby would be born. I laid in bed totally relaxed listening to my Birthing Day Affirmations and timing the waves for 1 hour – At 1:45 I woke up my husband and told him they were 2.5 minutes apart last about 1 minute and it had been 1 hour. We relaxed a bit more on the bed making our plan. We called my mom to return to our house and our doula to make her way to our house. My husband took my 2 year old to my dads house once my mom arrived and then by 2:45am
My fantastic support team was all here at my home – My mom, my doula and my husband. By now the intensity of the waves had increased and I was having to move around a lot upright and when a wave began I would bend over my bed or chest of drawers for support and truly relax. I believe that I first moved into center when I was sleeping and stayed in center until my baby was born.
I told my team at 3:00 am that I thought I was ready to go to the hospital but I was wavering and couldn’t make up my mind and my doula said “I just want to make sure that if we go to hospital and you aren’t as far progressed as you are hoping for that you will not be defeated.” I asked her – “Do you think I am not that far? “She said she wasn’t sure but she just wanted me to make sure I thought timing was right and for me to know if I wasn’t far progressed we could turn around and come back to the house after being checked. I told her that maybe she was right and to let me try to get through some more waves – My husband suggested I take a shower and I thought this was a good idea. The minute I entered the shower the intensity elevated tremendously and I became more vocal with the waves. My husband rushed down the stairs to start the brownies because we had made the plan to take them to the nurses – needless to say these didn’t make the trip to the hospital.
20 minutes later I got out of the shower and told my mom and doula that now I was positive and I was ready to go. I changed and we loaded the car and we listened to affirmations on the car ride. As we pulled up to the entrance I began to feel nauseated and this feeling I remembered – which I took to be a good sign.
We checked in at the hospital at 4:00am. We were given our room and put our hypobabies tracks on the cd palyer in the room. The nurse checked me and told me I was at 5cm but that she thought the baby might be breech – Which was Outrageous – Since my OB and I knew baby was not breech. Needless to say things moved along pretty rapidly – Between trips to the potty and waves it was non-stop.
Near 5:15 my water broke at the beginning of a wave and the nurse checked me again and said I was at 8cm. Once at the hospital I did experience some deep pressure in my lower back which my doula and mom applied counter pressure with each pressure wave, which helped tremendously. Also I stood from 1:45 – until birth time – laying or sitting was so awful I could barely stand it for the 2 minute vaginal check.
Once I stood back up from the check with the next wave I felt the urge to push. I tried very hard to breathe the baby out and I focused on keeping my mouth loose and my breathing AHHH AHHH’s but I found this very difficult. I must say that after watching Sheridan’s birth to Bryson and breathing him out I am so impressed. The nurse said if I was going to push since my doctor wasn’t there I had to get on the bed – I had envisioned birthing my baby on my side or squatting but since squatting wasn’t an option because the Dr. had not arrived – I tried side lying and that felt wrong.
So I moved to an all fours position with my head and upper body inclined and this felt right – Although thinking back on it my rear was just out there in everyone’s face because I elected not to wear the hospital gown and keep my clothes on which was a T-Shirt and boy cut panties but somehow with all the trips to the potty the panties didn’t make it longer than 30 minutes J – Oh well.
It was about 20 minutes of pushing and the Dr. had still not arrived. I was facing a bed and a wall and could hear the # of people in the room increase but I wasn’t sure what was going on because being in center – I was totally unaware of chaos, commotion or really anything that would normally be a distraction. My baby’s head was already out when the doctor arrived and with a few more pushes a beautiful baby girl was born. Unfortunately her shoulder was stuck on my pubic bone so they told me to flip over on my side with the next push and literally with that move she slid right out but needed to get some oxygen.
Kampbell was born at 6:10am. I was a little sad because I wanted her directly on my chest and I wanted her cord to stop pulsating before clamp or cutting but the oxygen was medically necessary. I did have a 2nd degree tear but this was nothing compared to the episitotmy. It was about 10 more minutes before the placenta was born and these waves were very easy. They brought her to me just after that and she nursed perfectly. She weighed 9.1lbs and was 21” long.
I can honestly say this birth experience was amazing. I believe that hypnobabies trained me to believe that with birth there would be pressure but not pain and this is exactly how it happened. My instructor stressed that you have to choose to use your hypnosis and there wasn’t a minute of the 5 hours that I wasn’t listening to Kerry’s voice including Easy First Stage, Deepening, Birthing Day Affirmations and Pushing Baby Out. After my first class I truly believed this program would work for me and that I would have a pain free, fast, quick and wonderful birthing time and sure enough all my wishes and beliefs came true. On a side note I continued to use my hypnosis after birth with the uterine contractions while nursing and anytime I felt like I needed some relief because it truly works wonders. Thanks to everyone in this group for all of the stories, questions, feedback, etc. – I truly believe they were very instrumental in my positive experience.