Archive for January, 2009

Interesting question.   There is a good article on Associated Content that asks this question.

My thinking is that if moms are listening to affirmations throughout their pregnancy then they are more empowered and stand up for their rights and trust their bodies.  All of these things help a mom make more informed choices and hoepfully have better births! 

There is a great comment about the Birthing My Twins Naturally CD on the Hypnobabies Review Blog, where a mom felt that her affirmations really helped her stand strong in a discussion with her care provider. 

Here is a blog post from a mom who uses affirmation in her pregnancy and how it helps her.  It includes her long list of affirmations!    Good for her! 

I wish all moms would listen to affirmations.  Hypnobabies has a great Affirmation CD for pregnancy and birthing.  They are also now available as MP3 downloads!

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Hello everyone!  I have finally found some time to sit down and write my birth story.  It was an incredible day!  But first let me tell you a little about my pregnancy.

At 33 weeks, I started having some strong contractions.  I went into the doctors office and I was dilated to 2 cm and 50% effaced.  They also did a fetal fibronectin test that came back positive.  Because of that test, they had me go up to labor and delivery to get medication to stop contractions and they wanted me to get the steroid shots for his lungs.  I did both of these things.  Contractions continued but mostly when I was active so the nurse told me to stay off my feet.  I was on a modified bed rest for 3 weeks and that helped a lot.  After I was taken off bedrest, I thought for sure he would come any day.  It caused a lot of emotional ups and downs, as I’m sure those with false alarms can attest.  It continued like this for 4 weeks!  The week before he was due, I started having very regular contractions.  I went in to labor and delivery and after a couple of hours of monitoring, they said that because these contractions were dilating me (slowly) that I could choose to stay.  The nurse explained that with “regular” or “normal” patients, they would start an iv and pitocin along with an epidural.  But because I was going natural, I had the choice to stay or go because it could mean a long labor.  I decided to wait one more hour to see how much I progressed and when she said there was no more change after that hour, we decided to go home and hope it progressed there.  I thought for sure we’d be heading back in the middle of the night and I’d be waking up to labor pains.  Well, I woke up the next morning with nothing and was disappointed.  I decided to just continue on and wait until he was ready.  So when he decided it was time, I was very ready.

On Oct. 11th (my due date) my husband and I were getting ready to go to church.  I was standing in the bathroom when I felt a little trickle.  I thought for a second that my water broke but because of all the emotional ups and downs and being in and out of the hospital, I didn’t fully believe it.  The last thing I wanted was to go to the hospital only to be sent home again.  My worry wart DH kept telling me he wanted to go to the hospital.  I said even if it was my water, we could wait a while.  He didn’t feel comfortable with that, since the doctors said if my water breaks to go right to the hospital.  So he convinced me and we got ready to go to the hospital.

We got checked in and set up in a room.  I was about 4.5 cm when I arrived.  The nurse checked the fluid coming out and it was indeed amniotic fluid.  So this was it!  I was very excited.  But nothing was happening!  No hard contractions or anything!  We waited and waited and walked and walked.  Because labor stalled with my first baby, they decided to start a pitocin drip.  I asked if we could start it very low and turn it off if things started to progress because I still wanted a natural birth if I could.  The continuously upped my pitocin level little by little, hoping it would start something.  I walked the halls and tried everything but I was moving so slowly.  After hours and hours, I had only dilated to a 5.  (half a cm!).  After about 10 hours, the doctor said he would like to change my plan.  He wanted to start an epidural to calm me down and insert an internal monitor to make sure the pitocin level was enough to change my cervix.  He also said they needed to start antibiotics because it had almost been 12 hours since my water broke.  I read this on the monitor before my nurse came in.  I looked at my husband and said “I don’t need an epidural.  I’m calm.”  My nurse overheard me and understood my concern.  She sat down and calmly talked to me about my options.  She also said that if I didn’t start to change by 24 hours, they would do a C-Section.  I asked if we could start with the internal monitor and then up my pitocin and if that didn’t work, I would have the epidural, if it was what was best for my baby.  She okayed that with the charge nurse and so we started on that path.  The charge nurse placed the internal monitor and immediately I started to feel the pressure waves.  I concentrated through them but they were incredibly intense.  I looked at my husband and said if the contractions are going to continue to get stronger and closer together, I didn’t think I could do this without an epidural.  My nurse came in to check me 30 min to an hour later and I had dilated to a 6+.  The plan was working!  I told her my concerns.  I was not prepared to deal with these contractions just lying in a bed.  I had wanted to use the jacuzzi and birth ball and if they were going to get any stronger, I wanted an epidural.  She looked at me with a concerned look and said, “I know how much you want to have this baby unmedicated.”  She then looked at my pitocin levels and said they were actually stronger than they needed to be.  She lowered my pitocin and got permission from the charge nurse to allow me to sit on the birthing ball.  That helped TREMENDOUSLY!  I was able to sit on the ball and relaxed through each wave for about another hour or 2.  My husband would apply counter pressure on my lower back and that helped a lot too.  I would just listen to the scripts and try to relax.  It felt so intense inside my head during the waves.  I thought I was moaning through them very loudly but when my husband captured a couple on camera, I looked completely calm and relaxed, my face even looked serene.  My nurse came in to check me and said I was a 7+.  She also said that one side of my cervix was dilating faster than the other.  She said if I lay down on my right side, that would help to dilate the other side of my cervix.  I layed down and immediately had an INTENSE wave.  I almost lost control at this point.  The nurse said to try and get through 3 more and then she’d check me.  She left the room and during the very next contraction, I shouted “I need to push!!”  My body couldn’t stop.  This might sound weird but it felt like when you dry heave, you can’t really control your body.  I couldn’t control the urge to push.  My body just took over.  The nurses must have heard me from down the hall because they all came running in and started getting things set up.  My nurse checked me and said, “its time to push”.  I looked at my husband and was so relieved.  Betsy, my nurse, took my hand and helped me breath through a wave or two until the Nurse Midwife arrived to deliver the baby.  I had never met this nurse midwife before, she was the one on call.  But she was great.  She allowed me to direct my pushing and didn’t do the counting thing (thank goodness).  She told me when to stop (to avoid tearing) and just basically sat back and watched.  My sister arrived in the nick of time.  She held my hand (my DH had the other) and maybe 5 minutes later, she looked at me and said “The head is out.” I was so happy because I understand what people mean when they say “Ring of Fire”.  It was intense!  After another good push or two, his body came out and he was finally here!  They layed him on my tummy and he was so warm.  I just kept saying “I did it.” and “I love you baby, thanks for coming out.”  I felt an immediate bond with him.

Afterward, my husband asked if I would do it again.  At that time, when the **pressure/pain** was so apparent in my mind, I said I didn’t know, probably not.  But 2 days later, I was sure I would.  The only part that was almost too much was 3-4 contractions before I could push.  But I did it and I am sure I can do it again.  I know what to expect now and I think if I prepare even better next time, it will be an even better experience, which is hard to say because this one was incredibly amazing!!

Asher Alexander was born 12:32 AM weighing in at 8 lbs 1 oz and 20 in long.  He scored a 9/9 on the apgar and is doing so well!  To be honest, I am excited to do it all over again!

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I am so happy to share that my body, which was labeled CPD when I had my
first child who weighed 6 lbs 2 oz and I was told would never give birth
vaginally, after having 3 C-Sections gave birth to a beautiful baby girl at
home. We named her Leilani Rain. She was my biggest baby weighing in
at 8 lbs 14 oz, Head Circ. 14 inches, Length 20 inches, and Chest 14.5

I went into pre-labor on Sunday and by Tuesday I was in active labor for
about 13 1/2 hours. I had a great birthing team who pretty much stood back
and watched to only give me reassuring words when needed.

It was the most beautiful thing I have ever experienced and can not even
begin to describe how empowering it was. Having her at home made all the
difference in the world. I felt comfortable and safe there. My “broken
body” (gosh I have to laugh at that) produced exactly what I needed when I
needed it. Be it endorphins, strength, a new wind to keep going, etc. etc.
etc….. It was GREAT! No medication was ever needed, requested or thought
of. I owe that to you great people and all the books recommended and read.
Through it all I new I could do it naturally and I DID! I trusted My Body
and My Body did a great job!

This will probably make me sound a little bratty, but I honestly want to
write a letter to all those doctors who told me I could not do this.
Especially the one who made my son cry all the way home because he told us
that I was crazy and looking to kill myself and my baby. Well I did it with
no complications to baby or me. We are both fine and healthy (just a little

Ladies, I am the biggest chicken in the world and if ICAN do this, so can
you. Trust your bodies. We were created to give birth. I will always have
you in my prayers and will always be rooting for you.

GOD Bless you,
Jennifer Lopez ~
Wife to my Best Friend and my Rock Gregory Lopez
Mother to:
AnaMaria – 12/11/92 – C/S due to FTP and CPD,
Wizdom – 07/29/06 – another
unnecessary C/S,
and Xander 03/27/04 scheduled C/S when told I could never
birth vaginally.
And now *Leilani Rain – 06/25/08 HVBA3C!!!!!*

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A little history…my first birth, a planned homebirth, ended up being a cesarean birth due to presence of meconium during labor and also a malpositioned baby (right occiput posterior).   I had a lot of post partum stress with baby ending up in NICU for 8 days, then myself coming down with a very bad infection in my right ovary/tube area that hospitalized me for 5 days; just 3 days after we finally all got to go home.  For someone who never wanted to go to the hospital in the first place, I sure got the full experience. For this birth, I knew I wanted to try for a VBAC and we decided it would be best to use a private CNM who has hospital privileges and to have the baby in the hospital.  The hospital (Group Health Seattle) has the lowest c-section rate in WA state (23%) and are very VBAC-friendly so I was pretty comfortable with my choice, although it took me the entire pregnancy to accept it.  I would have considered another homebirth, had my husband and family been more supportive, and if I lived closer to a hospital.

At 38 weeks, the baby was found to be in a footling breech position.  I was devastated as I saw my hopes for a VBAC flying out the window.  I tried all the natural turning techniques for a whole week and had no luck.  I did go in for an ECV (where they manually turn the baby externally) at almost 39 weeks, and it was successful.  Yay!  I totally credit my Hypnobabies practice for keeping me relaxed and giving me the skills to effectively visualize my baby turning into an optimal position.  The doctors were amazed how calm I was during the external version and said it made all the difference.

Starting at 40 weeks, I started feeling some mild waves (contractions).  I labored ALL week and kept thinking “this is it” and then fizzle, fizzle, fizzle…I kept going about my business and tried to just ignore the waves as best I could.  The Wednesday before Thanksgiving I went to the midwife and I was at 2 cm and ~ 75% effaced, so I felt like my body was preparing. I told her that I thought the Saturday after Thanksgiving would be the day.  [I had this vision or feeling for a couple of months].  On Thanksgiving night, while at the in-laws, I kept having strong waves but I didn’t time them or anything and they’d come and go, although some were quite intense and I had to stop what I was doing, as they took my attention away from what I was doing. But then, I didn’t feel much on Friday.  I had been losing bits of my mucous plug all week.

My midwife and doula kept telling me that my body was doing all this work ahead of time and that when my birthing time came, it would be fast and easy.  And, let me tell you, they were right!  Finally on Saturday morning (41 weeks) I just kind of had a feeling it might be the day (just like I visualized) and was feeling more action all morning.  Around noon I decided to lie down and time the waves.  They were coming at 7-8 or 10 minutes apart; then nothing for about 15 minutes.  I got up, had some lunch at 1 p.m., and then they picked up again.  I stayed calm (thanks to my Hypnobabies!) and started timing them again around 1:40 p.m.  The waves were increasing in intensity and were coming fast at 2, 3, 4, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 2, etc. minutes apart. I told John that I needed him to put Leo (our 2 ½ year old) down for his nap because I was having troubles focusing because he was trying to play with me.  I sat on my birth ball, resting my head on the edge of the couch during each wave.  After about 15 minutes of timing them, I called my doula who said, “You better call your midwife”. It’s now about 2 p.m.  I called my midwife and she had me talk to her through a wave.  I was so calm and could easily talk through the waves, I think it threw her off, because she told me to call back in an hour.  The Hypnobabies and deep relaxation techniques I’d been practicing for months were being put to the test during this time.  I remained totally calm and comfortable, despite the fact I was experiencing intense sensations, but would not call it painful at all.

I decided to go upstairs and listen to a Fear Release hypnosis script.  I lay down on the bed and told John I was feeling kind of scared and I started crying a little.  Reflecting back, I am pretty sure I was in transition, due to this sudden swing in emotions.  I laid down and put on my script, but I couldn’t focus because I just kept thinking, “we need to go, we need to go”.  So, after about 15 minutes, I got up, went to the bathroom, had a major evacuation of my bowels and my water broke a little bit.  It was time to go, NOW!

Luckily, John’s brother was on his way to stay with Leo.  He finally arrived about 10 minutes later and I got in the car.  Whew!  My water broke more in the car, lots more water.  [I was so organized, I put towels in the car a few days prior, but didn’t think to sit on them, or even put them up front, so the towels remained in the backseat, while I sat in a puddle up front.  HA! I just couldn’t muster up the strength to turn around and grab them while we were driving.]  We headed down the hill, and called my midwife and told her we were on our way to the hospital.  She said she might not make it for another hour, because she had to get her kids taken care of.  We called my parents too to tell them we were on the way to the hospital. It was about 2:45 p.m. now, about 1 hour after my waves really picked up.  About 5 minutes into the car ride, my body started pushing the baby down.  It was totally involuntary and I got a little nervous.  I had my headphones on, listening to a script (can’t remember which one I put on), but it was hard to focus.  Although I pushed for 4 hours with my last birth but didn’t push him all the way out, my midwife told me she thought I’d probably have to push for about an hour with this one, so I kept thinking, “She won’t be born in the car.  We’ll make it.”  I was SO uncomfortable in the car and wanted so badly to get on my hands and knees, but no way was I taking off my seatbelt, as John was driving very fast (but safe).  Poor guy!

We finally got to the hospital around 3:15 and they put me right into a room. I instantly stripped off every stitch of clothing and hopped up onto the bed on all fours.  My doula arrived shortly after.  I remember asking one of the nurses, “Aren’t you going to check me?” and she said, “You’re pushing honey, we don’t need to!”  My midwife showed up around 4 p.m.  After about 40 minutes on hands and knees (squeezing my husband’s hand during each wave), they wanted me to change positions to see if I could open up a bit more.  So, I turned over and pressed my feet into the squatting bar with my back reclined (kind of like a reclined squat using my feet up on the bar as leverage) and that really helped.  After just a few more pushes, I could start to see her head.  I breathed my baby down, making low guttural sounds with each push, using the force of the waves to help.  It took about 6 waves for her head to be born after we could first see her head emerging – with lots of dark hair!

I got to watch her birth in the mirror.  It was amazing.  I laughed out loud when her head was out.  The nurses and midwifes all laughed along too and told me they don’t often hear women laugh during birth!  I was just thinking, “I did it!” and felt such relief that it was almost over.  In one more push, her shoulder and body slid out and they immediately laid her right on my chest.  There was a little bit of meconium in my water, so after a minute or so, they did have to take her over to make sure she was okay.  She was fine and didn’t even need any suctioning, so they brought her right back to me.  She took to nursing like a true champ.  It was so easy. She was 8 lbs. 15 oz.  A big, healthy girl!

Since it was a VBAC and I was GBS positive, there were lots of (unwanted) hospital protocols I was supposed to follow (hep-lock, cervix checks every 2 hours, continuous fetal monitoring, antibiotics) but since it was so fast, none of that happened, so in essence, it all worked out just how I wanted (with no interventions, pokes, prods, monitors, etc.).  It was nothing like my first labor, which was much longer, and I was in much more of a hypnotic state with my first, because labor progressed slowly and I eased into it.  This one came fast and hard, and was much more intense.  I’d say once `active labor’ started, it was only about 3 hours until her birth and half of that time was spent pushing.  But, the nurses said I was very calm and did just fantastic.  Without the practice of Hypnobabies, I know it would have been much harder and scarier.  I felt in control at all times.  All in all, I wouldn’t change a thing.  It was as perfect as it could be!

Thanks to all during this pregnancy for your good advice and good thoughts.  My heart is with you all…
5.15.07 – Leo (cesarean)
11.28.09 – Eliza (VBAC)

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Carole Bombardier LCSW, CHt, HCHI
Carole Bombardier

704 796-8542
Charlotte, NC

Certified Hypnobabies Instructor
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Certified Hypnotherapist

I am very excited to be teaching Hypnobabies! As a Hypnotherapist I have seen many people experience positive life changes with the help of hypnosis, but none as exciting and rewarding as childbirth. It is wonderful to know that hypnosis can allow a woman to have a joyful, natural, and comfortable birthing experience. I consider it a great honor to teach each couple as they allow me the opportunity to affect their lives in such a personal and lasting way.

Classes are taught either in Huntersville or Concord.

Call for class dates.

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20/20 Show

I finally had a chance to watch the program and it was exciting to see that they mentioned hypnosis for childbirth. 

The moms who use Hypnobabies usually have different reasons for doing so.  Most want to be more comfortable during their birth, some are trying to just overcome their fear of birth, some are just trying to achieve a vaginal birth after a cesarean and want more tools to do so.  I only know one mom from the Hypnobabies Yahoo Group who was using it and really hoping for an orgasmic birth.   Maybe that was her?  Who knows…

But it was exciting that hypnosis for childbirth was mentioned, because now more moms know it is an option!

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I helped to do a showing of this movie at Belly Sprout and the proceeds went to ICAN.  It was great to have a gathering of women and men who were interested in seeing this show.  I think everyone enjoyed watching Orgasmic Birth, which showed some very nice births.  


I know that birth can be enjoyable.  I had a comfortable, enjoyable birth with Bryson.  I think it was because I was confident, I had no fear and I had a lot of tools and support.  I used Hypnobabies to help get rid of the fear and to stay relaxed and calm during the birth.  But I was able to stay focused and calm.   I had a wonderful feeling of joy after he was born.  I was in awe of the experience and wanted to do it again.  Really, I would give birth tomorrow if I could. It was amazing and wonderful.  Sounds a bit like an orgasm to me.  🙂


I didn’t have a sexual type of “orgasm” but I don’t think that was really the point of the film.  In fact I think the film was misnamed.  Certainly the title attracts attention, but really only one women in the film is “orgasmic” in that sense.  Rather the film was more about positive births, ones where women were in safe environments and were able to enjoy their births.  Ecstatic or Enjoyable births would have been a much better name. 


It would be difficult for a woman to have an orgasm if she was feeling watched or judged.  She needs a supportive environment where she can relax and let go.  I think in order to have an enjoyable birth it is similar.  It is hard to for most women to feel supported and safe during birth in the birthing climate we have today where most women are birthing in hospitals.  Where some are being verbally abused, where caregivers come and go and give routine interventions to everyone.  This film reinforced the idea of the importance of choosing a supportive care provider and a safe birthing environment. 


I was able to have my enjoyable birth in a hospital environment with the support of my husband and doula.  My nurses and OB were supportive as well.  I credit my Hypnobabies training as well to help me stay focused in the crazy minutes before I was pushing as the nurses were freaking out because they couldn’t figure out how to work the new beds and the OB was rushing in.  I was able to focus on my CD and stay relaxed and calm.  I doubt I could have maintained that calm without those tools. 


Orgasmic Birth is a nice birth film, but I think it should have had a different name.  If Hypnobabies moms who are pregnant want to watch it should be aware that it does have some birth scenes where the moms are uncomfortable, so if you choose to watch it use your Bubble of Peace!  I would love to see a birth movie showing a great Hypnobabies birth.  I think there may be one in Pregnant in America, which is the next birth movie I want to see!

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