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Kerry Tuschhoff, HCHI, CHt, CI
Founder/Director of Hypnobabies
I’d like to share the hypnobirth of my second daughter (and first hypnobirth), Sadie. She was born Saturday, June 26, 2010 at 9:29pm at a nearby hospital.
I woke up Saturday at 6am feeling light pressure waves. However, I didn’t think much of them because I was 10 days “overdue” at that point and had been in pre-labor for a couple weeks. I had learned not to get too excited. I got up and went about my everyday routine and noticed, about four hours later, that they were not letting up. They weren’t getting closer together however so I continued to ignore them. About 2 in the afternoon after putting my 3 year old down for a nap, I decided to time them. They were about 5-8 mins. apart and they were getting slightly more intense. I was beginning to get excited and listened to Easy First Stage. I became really relaxed and was fully rested. I then soaked in the tub for a while and thats when I told my husband that I thought I was in labor. I don’t think he really believed me because I looked so calm! I really enjoyed the first stage of labor. I focused on the positive affirmations and scripture that reaffirmed my faith and strength in God.
I am not sure when I entered active labor. All I recall is that about 5pm, I was getting more and more uncomfortable and by six pm I was starting to think, “I think I should go to the hospital soon.” I timed the pressure waves again and was dissapointed when they were still 5-6 mins. apart. (My goal was to leave at 4 min. apart so as not to get to the hospital too early). However, at about 7pm my husband got back from the store and was about to fix supper when I told him, “We need to go to the hospital now!” I felt a lot of pressure in my bottom and new something was going on. The waves were still 5-6 min. apart but I didn’t care. Something inside me said, “GO NOW!” Once we were well on our way to the hospital (20 min. commute). We noticed that the waves were now 2-3 mins. apart and I really had to concentrate through each wave. I almost felt like I was sitting on the baby’s head! But, I breathed through them and visualized all the positive scripture and affirmations that I practiced with Hypnobabies.
Once at the hosptial, the ob checked me and said I was at 7cm! I was so happy because it was what I had visualized. He asked me what I wanted to do for pain and the nurse chimmed in, “Oh, but you are so close!” That gave me the confidence to say no to the epidural. An hour and a half later I felt the urge to push and everyone gathered around and just stood around me. It was totally mother directed pushing and I was not hooked up to the monitors. I pushed for about 20 min and pulled my baby out myself! I held her close as they cleaned her up and breastfed her right away. She was perfectly healthy and content. I felt so alert and great afterwards and was very happy that I didn’t tear. The doctor and nurses were all very impressed and supportive of my birth. One nurse said, “If everyone labored like this, we would be out of business!” And the doctor kept commenting on how in control and calm I remained through each pressure wave. We left the hospital under 24 hours. It was an amazing and thrilling experience.
Thanks to all the wonderful support and emails- they were so imformative. I am so glad I used Hypnobabies!
Let me just say that I am very proud of this birth. It was at a free-standing birth center with midwives and my hypnosis helped tremendously!
Eli was born at 6:53 am on July 9th, a day after our 10th wedding anniversary! He was 6lbs 8 oz upon arrival. I am writing this up now, only 2 days after birth because I won’t be able to take naps during the day until I do! My mind simply keeps playing over the events that I don’t want to forget. This birth was done with Hypnobabies hypnosis and was absolutely perfect.
My birthing time started the morning of July 8th and pressure waves were about 5 to 7 minutes apart from the very beginning. My mom came over that morning as she and dad are up visiting for about a month. My ‘guess’ date was July 21st, by the way! All morning, I walked, squatted, laid on the couch, and tried to stay as active as possible. I really wanted to walk outside but it was in the low nineties and the humidity was very high. I ended up just staying inside with our swamp-cooled air.
To say I was excited would be an understatement. I had worked towards this natural birth since the moment we found out we were pregnant. I figured out pretty quickly that if I wanted a completely natural birth I would have to step away from the OB/hospital birth that we initially were signed up for and go with a midwife/free-standing birth center birth and I’m glad that we did. Just to give a little background, my first birth was by C-section and even though at the time I was happy with it, after doing more research I believe my section might have been avoided by doing more walking/activity during labor. My 2nd child was a successful VBAC (vaginal birth after c-section) and again, at the time I was thrilled with the outcome but the recovery was made difficult by the epidural/pitocin/episiotomy/vacuum extraction train that I boarded. Just recovering from the episiotomy took a full year!
So as I was laboring at home and looking forward to my 3rd birth, I knew what I was avoiding. I knew there was a small chance of transfer to a hospital from the birthing clinic but accepted that that might happen and that it would be because of a true emergency. So, midway through the day I started listening to my hypnosis tapes and one of the suggestions was inhaling relaxation and exhaling peace – I took this and modified it a bit. I would inhale and upon exhaling I would use my peace cue and breathe ‘peeaacce’ through the first part of my exhale and ‘open-open-open-open’ through the last part of my exhale. It allowed me to focus my anesthesia going to my middle and also to visualize my cervix opening. I believe this, along with the abdominal breathing was critical to the superb birth experience that I ended up having. It produced supreme relaxation. (As an aside, I read up on abdominal breathing because exhaling to the count of 8 had always given me trouble. So what I did was inhale first into my abdomen, and then fill up my lungs. My exhale would push the air first out of my lungs and then out of my abdomen. This gave me more to focus on instead of just the counting in to 4 and out to 8.)
By evening my pressure waves were more intense but I was staying nicely on top of them and was feeling very relaxed. I was listening to my ‘easy first stage’ CD and my ‘deepening’ but at times also just using my peace/open exhaling to relax through them. We started watching the DaVinci Code as mom had never seen it. I watched through about half and then went up to bed to try to rest. At some point I had a PW that took me by surprise and was a bit difficult to get through and because I wasn’t able to feel high enough to see how much I was dilated I decided to go down around midnight and let mom and Noel know that we needed to leave for the birth center.
We arrived at about 1am and upon stepping into the building I immediately had to squat next to the couch and go through a PW. The midwives were there and everyone stood back respectfully and let me do what I needed to do. I believe at this point I wasn’t yet actually saying my peace/open exhale out loud. I was more whispering it to myself. We got set up in their largest birth suite and I proceeded to squat, lay on the bed, toilet sit, and do a variety of positions that I hoped would get him moving down. Danny, the lead midwife checked me and I was 4cm and she suggested we wait a bit before getting into the tub. So after a couple of hours I was checked again and was 5cm and then got into the tub. Holly, the student midwife would come every half hour and check on the heart beat and his heart rate was always wonderful which was a relief. My husband was timing my PWs and at this point they were a little over a minute long and about 2 minutes apart. The water felt great with the first PW but after that they must have heated up because the relief soon left me. I started moaning my peace/open chant out loud and kept on top of the PWs for awhile. The pretty LED colored water helped, too! lol After a bit, probably around 4am, I decided to get out as I was getting too warm and though I was doing great relaxing through the first and last part of the pressure waves, I started loosing my concentration during the peak and would tense up my body. I decided a change of position might help.
So after getting out of the tub, I tried laying on the bed for awhile. I listened to my hypnobabies a bit more and didn’t want to stay in one position too long and so I tried some toilet sitting while hanging from my moms shoulders. This position was really effective with allowing me to relax my abdominal muscles upon inhalation. As I would inhale into my abdomen I would allow my muscles to just droop forward and down and it felt really good! I managed a couple that way before they again got the best of me and I decided I wanted back in the tub. My husband was putting some more hot water into the tub but as I was going from toilet to tub I ended up making a beeline for the bed. I got on my side and heard Kerry’s voice say “and your pressure waves are SO comfortable”. I was in the grip of a tough one and I yanked the earbuds out of my ears and tossed the mp3 player on the table and yelled “they are NOT comfortable!”. I laugh now about this. Mom told me later she thought that might have been when I entered transition. Anyway, then I had a pressure wave that was WAY different from the others. It felt like it just kind of took over my body and I didn’t like it one bit. I was laying on my side when I felt something pop down through against my perineum. I told mom I felt something so she went and grabbed the midwives. Holly, the student midwife came in first and she looked and said “uhhh, Danny?” Mom said she looked like she didn’t quite know what she was seeing. Turns out it was the intact water sac just inside of me! Mom later said that she thought Danny and Holly were surprised that I was moving along so fast. With the next PW, it popped out of me, still intact and it broke on its own a couple seconds later. She then was able to check me and said I was at 10cm.
Up until hearing that it was the amniotic sac they saw and that I was at a 10, incredibly, I didn’t realize that these new tough PWs were pushing PWs. I just thought they were a new plateau I had arrived at and that I had several more hours to labor through. This was only around 6:45am and at 4am I had been only 5 centimeters!
So I had another PW while side-lying on the bed and Danny said she saw his head just inside my perineum. I remember thinking, ‘that was fast!’ because it can take a LONG time sometimes for the head to descend from cervix to perineum and with me it happened with one involuntary push! Yay! I reached down and felt his head there but I told Danny I did not want to deliver in a side-lying position, even though it’s really a great position for preventing tears. I felt horribly out of control. She said, ‘well move fast’ and I got down and used the birthing stool that we had discussed as a possibility. (The other high possibility was a water birth, but that wasn’t going to happen at this point – the water was too cold). Once on the birthing stool, I felt SO much more in control of my PWs. In fact, I barely felt them. I did feel the so called ‘ring of fire’ but looking back it wasn’t that bad. (I had entirely forgotten about the pushing baby out track by this point!)
[Editor's note: Oh, I wish someone at the birth had remembered to play the "Pushing Baby Out" track on the "Birth Guide" CD out loud for this mom to hear while she was pushing. It would have helped beautifully to remind her of the "Peace" cue for instant physical comfort and she would have heard hypnosis suggestions like, "anesthesia flows out ahead of your baby, soothing and numbing everything in your bottom as it goes", and "more powerful natural anesthesia with every breath you exhale now", "Peace...and powerful anesthesia now", etc.]
I pushed twice on the birthing stool, once to get his head about 1/3rd out, at which point I reached down to feel it again (very wrinkly), and the next push had his head out. His shoulders rotated nicely and he just came down and out really fast into the midwifes arms. His cord was short so I couldn’t pull him up too high, so I held him more in my lap while we waited for the cord to stop pulsing. It didn’t take too long as I had already started some separation bleeding. Danny said that I delivered him over an intact perineum but I did have a skid mark. Almost two weeks later it is feeling almost completely healed. Noel cut the cord and that was that!
My almost 6-year-old daughter McKenna was at the birth, but as we arrived at 1am at the birth center, she slept in one of the other suites while I did most of my laboring. My mom brought her in when I was pushing a bit on the bed. She and I had talked about birth and had watched a few videos so she was prepared for blood and yelling or possibly none of that. When I was on the birth stool, she was on the floor on a pillow kind of turned away but when the midwife said ‘here comes the head!’ she popped right up and got in there to see. I remember hearing her say a very enthusiastic “WOW” when he came out. I’m glad she was present. I’m hoping it will create a very special bond between them. She watched his first bath and loves holding and kissing him. Danny cleaned off the blood, but left the vernix so he’s kept his sweet baby smell for a few days.
So overall, excellent! I am very happy with how everything went and if this wasn’t my 3rd child, I’d be chomping at the bit to do it again. Amazing experience! I credit the hypnosis for keeping me positive and calm during the pregnancy and giving me great cues to help me focus through my pressure waves. I am thankful for how well the abdominal breathing worked. The midwives at The Baby Place were so kind and respectful and let me lead the show. I am still on a baby high right now! Thank you, thank you!!
Moira’s birth story
I had period-like cramps at night for a few days, so I knew it was close, but at the same time I had gotten used to feeling them. After spending a week or so telling my husband that most women’s waters don’t break until well into the birthing time, mine broke! It wasn’t a huge amount, but enough that I had to wear a pad and change it every hour. I called out doula to let her know and she told me to try and get as much rest as possible.
I made a playlist of Easy First Stage, Deepening , and Birthing Day Affirmations and went to bed. Around 2am I was having trouble sleeping through waves that were about 15 minutes apart. By 6am my husband was timing them at 3-4 minutes apart. I remember looking at him and saying “but they aren’t that long” and he smiled and said “if you say so”. He called our midwife’s office and when she returned his call she encouraged us to have the doula come to our house. (She was concerned that the broken water would put me on the clock at the hospital. . . and I sounded so calm.) I took a shower and then laid of the couch for a few minutes and slept between waves. At one point, I just sat up and said “we have to go”. DH called the doula and told her to meet us at the hospital instead!
I have to say earlier on I kept trying to turn my light switch off during pressure waves. At this point I was so uncomfortable staying still that I went to center and rocked mostly on the back of DH’s swivel office chair of all things! I HATED sitting on the birthing ball that used almost everyday!
The car ride took a lot of concentration, but it literally felt like a 5 minute ride. (It’s about 30 minutes.)
When we got to the hospital, we went through the same stupid stuff everyone complains about. The stupid questions! Hospital policy requires that moms are hooked up to monitors for at least 20 minutes before they can go to a room. I’m a person who normally can’t sit still, so this was like torture! Another nurse came in and asked me more questions that I had already answered. I literally ignored her during waves and answered her when I felt like it. (Although both DH and the doula were there and they could’ve easily answered the stupid questions! grrr) I did learn at this point that 1) my midwife was the one there from her practice and 2) the birth center (reserved for natural births) was open and ready! YEAH!
My midwife came down and checked me and seemed surprised and wanted me to get to the room. (I didn’t hear her then, but I was 8cms!) As soon as they released me from the monitors, I insisted on going to the bathroom AND walking- though they wouldn’t let me take the stairs! As soon as I got into the room I got in the tub. Another reason I love my midwife- moms aren’t allowed in the tub if they’ve broken waters! Hehe! I spent a good amount of time in that tub! I started to feel sick, so I got out, sat on the toilet, and the birthing stool.
I felt very pushy, but didn’t really know what to do. My midwife and doula talked to me about pushing and how I could do it. I listened to them, because I couldn’t really find a rhythm that worked for me. But I felt like it was on my terms. I was also listening to Pushing Baby Out out loud and everyone loved it! I couldn’t find a comfortable position, so they suggested that my husband sit on the bed behind me. I think this really ended up making the experience for both of us!
While she was crowing, my midwife said “you might feel stretching and burning.” I looked at her and said “Oh, I didn’t feel it until you said that!”
After getting a rhythm for pushing the midwife asked if I wanted to feel her head! I reached down and remember thinking she had less hair than I thought she would! I pushed for a bit longer and the MW explained that when her head got to a certain point, I would have to slow down so she could check for the cord. Within a few pushes, the nurse couldn’t get her heartbeat (she was so low!) and the MW told me that I had to get her out soon. The whole thing about slowing down totally went out of my mind and I pushed her out in one big push! The cord was around her neck, but the midwife got if off and put her right on my chest and she immediately wanted to eat! My husband was crying and telling me what an amazing job I did. It was one of the best moments of my life!
Pediatricians examined her in the room and the MW told me that she had been posterior, presented her forehead and had her hand by her head! She couldn’t believe it! She said she thought that she must have repositioned herself because I wasn’t showing signs of back labor
***BOP*** I ended up with a pretty nasty tear and she needed to consult with an OB to repair it. He wanted to give me an epidural for the repair, but the MW said, “She has a really high pain tolerance!” And told me to put my headphones back on! I had to be transferred to a regular labor room which made me even more thankful the center had been open. (It was the size of a closet!) They put me in stirrups and used a local anesthesia. ***end BOP***
Looking back I have no idea how I laid there and literally joked with the OB about the fact that I wanted to get a pedicure before the baby was born and apologizing about my chipped nail polish! I had the Deepening track on with one headphone in, in center and my husband was holding Moria in a chair next to me. The funniest thing was that the OB had come into the birth center and saw me on the queen sized bed before he requested the regular bed with stirrups. (He was an older guy; I can’t blame him for not wanting to lay on the bed while stitching!) While he was working he asked my midwife, “How do you deliver like that?” She laughed and said “everyone’s in the bed and everyone is comfortable.” I love it!
ANYONE who is having doubts, seriously Hypnobabies helped me so much! Up until a few days before, I was still unsure. I did a fear release about pain and if I’d be able to handle it. Here’s the thing, there wasn’t any! I’ve heard about how terrible back labor can be, and I didn’t feel anything that I couldn’t handle. Everyone was talking about my pain tolerance and how I was smiling at them. I’m a serious wimp when it comes to the dentist, so I don’t think that I have a particularly high pain tolerance. I just kept thinking about holding little Moira and made it happen. What an empowering experience!
A final note about husbands. . . mine was amazing. I couldn’t take it seriously when he read scripts to me, so we never did that. He learned the cues and used them perfectly! I remember him touching my arm and saying “relax” and instantly relaxing, not realizing I had been tense. I don’t even know if he ever listened to the Birth partner CD.