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I am starting a new series:  Wondering Wednesday

Is there something you are wondering about Hypnobabies or pregnancy or birth?

I would love to answer your questions.  So send them in.

You can either leave a comment or e-mail me at sheridan AT enjoybirth DOT com.

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What Ifs? Come True!

A woman on one of the message boards was struggling to keep her confidence up as her birth drew closer.  She was planning her second VBAC, first unmedicated birth using Hypnobabies.  She kept talking about all the possible problems and reasons she should agree to an induction or “just go for the drugs” or even a repeat c-section.  She was fighting off her OB’s induction suggestions (for a VBAC!?!), despite being 5 cm dilated at 38 weeks, and 7 cm dilated at her 39 week appointment!  Some of us encouraged her to think about more positive “What ifs…?” and she later posted this, which I thought deserved to be shared:

“What if my water breaks on it’s own and I get to feel the joy that I’m going into labor in my natural surroundings?  What if I get to celebrate the start of “Birth Day” with my SO and children, in our home…with excitement knowing LO is soon to come?  What if I get the NCB nurse of my dreams and she is soothing and wonderful?  What if my mom sees just how strong of a woman I really am?  What if I amaze DBF and he actually feels emotions and lets them show?  What if I have people respect me and my birth time enough to listen to me calmly and openly, and treat me like they are lucky to be in attendance?  What if I get to feel and see my baby come out?  What if I get to feel him against my skin before he’s cleaned up and dressed? What if I get to hold and nurse him right away?  What if I am healed from past abuses by birthing my child?  What if I feel so emotionally charged that baby blues are non existent? What if I have the birth of my dreams and am forever changed for the better?  What if there is a renewed sense of appreciation for my older children and they feel more love from me?  What if everything goes right?”

This morning she sent me a message (and a similar one to the board) that said simply.  “My ‘What ifs’ came true.”

That is a good days work right there.  Thank you, Kerry, for all you’ve done and all you do!

-Susan

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I love that in Hypnobabies we teach about the importance of this special time, right after baby is born!

It is shocking to me how many moms who are taking my Hypnobabies class for the 3rd or 4th baby and they are amazed that they have the option of keeping the baby on them for an hour or two.

“I didn’t know I could do that!” one mom exclaimed.  The nurses always had taken her babies away after a minute or two and then spent 10-20 minutes weighing them and doing other things before she really got to hold and meet her baby.  She always hated that, but didn’t realize she had a choice!  She made sure it happened with the birth of her Hypno-baby and she loved that special time!

I find that typically in a hospital birth the baby nurses really want to do the routine procedures right away.  It takes some consistent “No, I want to keep my baby.”  comments from mom to make it happen.  I suggest telling the nurses you will call them when you are ready to weigh the baby.  This way they will leave the room and only come back when you want them too!

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Here is a great video of Missy using Hypnobabies during her hospital birth.   I was lucky enough to be her doula!

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I had a really wonderful homebirth.  I am so glad that I used Hypnobabies again.  This is my second homebirth and my second time using Hypnobabies.

Amara’s birth story

I went to a neighbor’s house on Friday the 12th of March 2010 at about 6pm to play games are just relax.  At about 8:30 I stood up to go to the bathroom and felt a little gush.  I thought that I had peed myself so I went in to the bathroom and found so that the pad was stained pink and smelled differently.  I thought that I could stay at the party for a while but every time I stood up I was leaking so I went home and called the midwife.  I was not having any PW so I knew it would be a while.  Honestly, I was disappointed to have my water break early.  With my son, PW were much harder to deal with after my water was broken.  The midwife told me to lie down and get some sleep.  I tried to sleep but just ended up laying there until I began having a few PW at 2am.  They were coming close together but were not very strong.  Aaron (husband) insisted on timing them and then on calling the midwife.  She came by and checked me at 4 am but by then things had puttered out.  I was 3 centimeters when she checked.  She went home and we called my mom and sister to come over at 6am.

At this point I am not having very many PW and have been just laying down resting and listening to my Hypnobabies Early First Stage CD.  At 3 pm the midwife comes back and checks and I am still at a 3 with hardly any PW.  She gave me some homeopathic labor pills that dissolve under the tongue and I immediately begin to have strong regular PW.  During this time my family has made food for everyone, my husband has been entertaining our son and everyone comes to check on me every few minutes, alternating sitting with me.  My family and I all go for a walk around the block and I have lots of strong PW.  I begin to really have to focus on them and tell myself “Pressure, pressure, pressure” each time I have them, so I remember that it is not pain but just a lot of pressure.  I retire to my room and keep walking around the bed and continue to have PW.  The midwife leaves (she had another woman that was in labor too and was checking on her) and in a few hours comes back to check me.  I was just at a 4 and PW were slowing again so the midwife gave me more homeopathic pills.  This ramps up the waves again.  Feeling a little discouraged, I put on the Pushing baby out CD so that I would get my mind to start thinking about that.

I start to feel a little pushy almost immediately.  Remembering an article I read where the midwife was saying that giving little pushes, if the mom feels the need to, can open up the cervix more quickly, I begin to bear down a bit when I get a PW.  At 6 pm the midwife checks again and I am at a 6!  I am so happy to be moving along so I keep up with the bearing down.  At 8 pm I really start needing to bear down a lot and the PW are really strong.  I am at an 8 at this point.  I asked for oxygen because I was feeling light headed and nauseous.  That was a life saver.  As soon as they put it on, I felt much better.

At 8:41 pm my mom, sister and husband gathered around the bed and hold my hands when I start to push at each wave.  I remembered to push with my butt and not my tummy (something I had trouble with last time) and can really feel her moving down.  This is the only part of birth that was really hard.  Amara was coming down with the lip of my cervix.  The midwife kept trying to push it out of the way but it hurt so much I asked her to stop.  Then she did it really slowly and it finally worked.  When her head was coming out I was surprised at how much it hurt.  With my son it did not hurt much at all.  I asked for the hot wash cloths to be put on me and that really helped.  Later, my midwife told me that she was turning while she was coming out.

After three good pushes, she was out and on my tummy.  Born March 13th at 8:59 pm.  She was covered in vernex and cried a little bit.  She had her eyes wide open and black hair on her head.  We were all so excited to see her.  I cuddled her while the midwife rubbed her down with a warm towel.  I had no tearing at all.  A few minutes later the placenta came out and Aaron cut the cord.  Within 30 minutes, I put her to my breast and she nursed for an hour and a half.  She was 7 lbs ½ oz and 21 ½ inches long and two weeks early.  Then we all snuggled up in bed and went to sleep.

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I LOVE this birth story, because it shows how moms can be so powerful during their births!   Mom was induced at 42 weeks, but insisted that the pitocin was turned up slowly and refused to have her water broken.

First off I have to thank all the wonderful women in this group. (Hypnobabies Yahoo Group) Without you and your wonderful stories I don’t think I would have had the confidence to go to the hospital to be induced with pit, and have a beautiful birth.  I was so nervous and upset the few nights before. Your stories gave me the reassurance that I could do this, and I did. Here is our story.

I think overall I let myself be pushed into inducing. We were at the 42wks the Dr. had guessed. My family was all becoming quite impatient and there was a lot of pressure to have her out.  I agreed to be induced and get things started.

The night before I kissed my first child goodnight and tucked him in, in tears. I left him at my MIL’s so we didn’t have to get him up so early the next morning. Friday the 21st at 6 am we were at the hospital. I took a ton of food in with me, because I was not going to do this with no fuel. We got settled, the first nurse got us all checked in did all the paperwork and started the IV. They had a change of shift, so the next nurse, Anna, come-on and she was wonderful.

Anna spoke with us and I told her how things were going to go. To call the doctor if she needed but I was the one birthing a healthy baby, and unless the stats of baby changed, this is what I wanted. She was so cool! I told her we would be doing the pit slowly. I only wanted an increase every 45 min to an hour, not the every 15 the Dr. had ordered. She called the Dr and it was agreed. So off we set.  We had a cervical check and I was barely dilated 2 and my cervix was very posterior.

I had no idea how the pit would work on me and baby so we just waited. Annabella was so squirmy, they couldn’t keep her on the monitors, Anna had to hold them on and move with her. Around 10am my sister arrived. A few hours past and not much was going on. They wanted me to wear O2 for a while, and said baby was accelerating better when it was on. It didn’t bother me so we did.

After awhile the Dr came in and wanted to look for Annabella and when she couldn’t find her well stated the baby was breach and we needed to go have a c-section. I looked at this woman and told her no, baby had not flipped I would have felt it, and I was not getting a c-section today. That if baby had turned, then we would turn off the pit, and I would go see my Chiropractor to help move her around again. I don’t think the Dr liked me. I didn’t care. So she ordered an ultrasound just to see, and I was later told she knew baby was breach and had started the paperwork to send us on.

Annabella was in fact not breech. She was head down just not really engaged. I felt so good knowing I was right. All this happened about 11am. There had been no increase in the pit for awhile, because of the ultrasound, I still wasn’t doing much that I felt anyway. We started upping it again.

During these times since Annabella wasn’t staying on the monitor anyway, I was up. I walked and rolled on the ball. I leaned over the ball to do pelvic tilts. Pretty much anything I wanted. I really enjoyed that.  I was eating and drinking. I was joking and laughing with my sister and husband. At 2pm I declined another cervical check, but was starting to feel some steady waves we started using Hypnobabies. We called my Doula and told her to come on in.

I was standing and rocking my hips back and forth during the waves, and they were nice. Just these waves, they never were uncomfortable. I didn’t feel I needed to go in to off during them so I just stayed in center moving as I felt I needed to. Anna would come in and check baby with a Doppler, and the let us do our thing.

About 4 the Dr was back, she wanted to see where we were so we checked. I was 4cm, and my cervix was no longer posterior, about 70% effaced.

  • The Dr. said I was not where she would like to see me by now. She wanted to break my waters and move things along.
  • I told her no thanks; I felt we were doing fine. Baby was fine, so was I.
  • She didn’t look surprised. She did get quite nasty though, and told me if I didn’t do things the right way this will land in a c-section and was putting myself and child at risk. That she was going off shift and there would be someone else.
  • I came up out of Hypnosis, and the bed, looked her square in the eye and told her that my child in fine.
  • I am not having a c-section to please her that if she had not noticed this was MY birth. I was the one doing things, until someone can show me that my child was unsafe I would do this all night if needed.  That was the RIGHT way.
  • Also that it was a good thing that she was going off shift, because she was fired. I didn’t want her back in my room. I didn’t need any one in there being negative. I was sure there were other people around who could catch this child, and if not I would do it myself.
  • She left the room in a quick hurry, and as I turned around again, my husband and everyone including the nurse were all just kind of staring at me.

My husband was stunned, and asked if I could do that, firing the Dr. I told him I didn’t care if I could or not, she wasn’t coming back to my room. Anna asked to get baby back on the monitor for a few, and as I lay down and got all adjusted, she said she had not liked the Dr. either.  I don’t know how things happened from there, but another Dr. came in and introduced himself about 45 min. later and was way more respectful than that woman had been.

We continued, at 7pm the waves were more intense and almost on top of one another. My Doula suggested I get in the shower to help, we did, and it didn’t really help much. I started to shake and shiver but I wasn’t cold. I vomited all over, and then with the next wave I felt pushy. soon there after my waters broke during one of the pushy waves.

**BOP** I have read other people say that it was pushing that was most intense and they were unprepared for. I agree. At some point I stopped using Hypnobabies, and it hurt. My body had taken over, I had no choice but to push. I was on my hands and knees, but that wasn’t working for me. I rolled to my back, someone held my legs, and she came.  I now know what the ring of fire is. **BOP**

Annabella was born at 8:06pm 7lbs 10oz. 21 inches long.  She cried for a bit but was so awake and alert. She is just perfect. She latched on and nursed minutes after birth. I am so happy with this birth. I did it the way I wanted even if it didn’t start the way I choose. I wish the dr had been more supportive. But you can’t have it all.

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