Kaylee decided to take her time to come into this world. The order of events and days are fuzzy in my head, it was a long week, but this is close enough :P To get to the “real” birthing, skip to the ***.
On Sunday, August 10th, pressure waves came, slightly stronger than BHs and about 8 min apart.
I baked some cookies.
By Monday, there was no change in time or intensity, so I tried to go about my day, but didn’t get much done. I had an upset stomach and loose bowels, so I spent the whole day wondering, is this it?
I ate some cookies…
Tuesday was the same. My doula, Amy came over to do some massage and I
had my last day of work.
I baked some more cookies…
Wednesday morning, bloody show. Alright, things were moving! I let Amy
know and she came over in the afternoon. She left about 5pm (pressure
waves still 7 min apart). At nine, things started to get more
intense. Pressure waves were stronger, so I listened to deepening to
get myself into a deep hypnotic state. They were very manageable, but
I couldn’t talk through them. Called Amy around 12, when pressure
waves were about 3 minutes apart. She arrived around 1 and we did
massage and hypnosis. A migraine then came on and we switched to
focusing on that — pressure waves slowed down to 5 min apart and we
decided to get some rest.
I woke up Thursday morning, pressure waves still 5 min apart, no
change in intensity. Amy went home and I went back to sleep. When I
woke up, they were practically gone, so the hubby and I tried to go
about our day — went to home depot and food store.
I ate more cookies…
Thursday evening we went out for dinner, but the pressure waves came
on strong and close together, so we had to leave the restaurant. We
promised ourselves we would sleep and knew if it was going to be
birthing time it would intensify.
I didn’t get much sleep, but alas Friday morning came and the
intensity was down again.
Who knew in a few hours, things would actually pick up!
Friday night, pressure waves returned, but started getting more
intense and closer together. We called Amy, and she came over around
9. At this point, she was the only one of the group to think the baby
was on her way. We listened to easy first stage in the background.
We called Matt’s sister, Vanessa (who is also a massage therapist), to
let her know tonight was the night around 9.
By midnight I decided I was ready to go to the hospital — pressure
waves were quite intense and I was getting shaky. I took a shower,
which felt incredible and slowed the pressure waves down — had I know
that, I would have gone in sooner!
After the shower I was feeling a lot better, but still wanted to go to
the hospital. The five minute drive was easier than I was expecting –
heated seats are awesome during birthing time :)
Once we got to the hospital, we went to the L&D floor where we were
told we needed to wait for a triage room. This is where 2 MTs at
birthing is great. Vanessa did my feet while Amy massaged my neck as
we waited in the hallway. I was able to really deepen and stayed off
the entire time.
We finally were brought into a room, about an hour later, and I was
greeted by a man telling me to undress and get on a table. I told him
no, I want to go over my birthplan with the midwife on call. He seemed
completely confused by my refusal (thank you Hypnobabies for the
encouragement to say no) and put me in the room with Matt. I had a
bit of an emotional breakdown at this point — I had spent too much
time in the hospital with my father (who is no longer with us) and
hadn’t been back since. My bubble of peace couldn’t keep it in… so I
cried a bit and my husband was great at comforting me and giving me
the peace cue.
A few minutes later the midwife, Susan, came in and she reviewed my
birthplan while the guy from the hall hooked me up to monitors and
asked me a lot of questions.
I agreed to an internal to check progress and then Susan went outside
with Matt to go over our options. Matt returned to the room and said
we can be admitted or go home. I was at 5 and happy to know this was
the real deal, but decided I’d rather go home until I started to feel
pushy, since the hospital was so close by.
At home, I went directly to the shower, where I stayed until it no
longer kept pressure wave frequency down. They were about 2 min apart
and over a minute long and I tried to go back into deep hypnosis
downstairs. The pressure was too intense to stay in off, so I would be
off in between waves and then work through the waves on all fours,
while Vanessa massaged my sacrum. This worked for a bit, but soon, I
was shaking so hard and the pressure was so intense, I had to really
vocalize to get through each wave. Amy and Matt had been getting some
sleep during this time and we woke them up and I said we need to go now!
It was about 2 hours since we left the hospital and this time the car
ride was a lot less fun — I vocalized through the waves and everyone
in the car would give me relax cues. This time when we arrived, they
sent us directly to a delivery room. I went right from the wheelchair
onto the bed on all fours. I told Susan I felt pushy and she said,
push — I’ll watch and let you know if you need to stop.
I was so relieved that she was following my birthplan closely — the
lights were out, there were only whispers and no coaching. Anyone who
entered the room was given my birthplan to review.
Pushing was by far my favorite part. It was quite a long time though
– I was so tired I could not get the strength to change positions and
all fours was not working well. For two hours I stayed there, baby’s
head would crown and then go right back in. My pressure waves were
pretty far apart in this position, and I welcomed the break.
Susan’s shift was over and a new midwife came in, Marie, who
recommended squatting, which I had been thinking I wanted to do the
whole time, I just couldn’t imaging holding myself up. But they moved
the bed around, put on a birthing bar and had Matt sit behind me and
support my weight. This was awesome — I felt so much love and support
from my husband — it was like we were birthing together.
On my next wave, I could feel a big difference, and she really started
crowning. I did “ah” pushes during and between pressure waves and if I
felt too much stretching I would hold back. Marie wasn’t doing
perineum massage, but some kind of general stimulation of the entire
area and it was bringing on pressure waves back to back. Once I heard,
we see a nose, I gave it one grunting push and she popped right out.
It was about 20 min from changing positions to her being born. It was
absolutely incredible — she was born in the caul (my water never
broke), but had meconium in the waters (made for interesting green
head crowning pictures), so they needed to call the NICU. They still
put her directly on my chest, where she immediately breastfed and the
NICU team checked her while she was on me. She was a healthy, 7lb 5oz,
20 inch girl and her apgar was 9 and 9.
I birthed the placenta a few minutes later and had a small tear (2
stiches). I was happy about the tear because I was quite sore and the
idea of some numbing sounded nice :)
Everyone in the room said that was the most amazing birth and they couldn’t believe that I smiled the entire 2.5 hours of pushing. They asked if they could use my birthplan as an example to show mom-to-bes and staff because they were trying to add more focus on natural births and options at the hospital.
Thanks Hypnobabies and all the hypnomoms out there! Reading people’s stories and being so prepared helped me achieve the beautiful birthing of my daughter.